Post # 1
I am just getting out of a bad relationship and a friend of mine suggested I download a dating app just to get my self esteem and confidence back up and to realize that there are indeed nice single men out there (my ex always told me I would never find anyone else again because I am too old, I’m 35)….
Anyways, I looked up dating apps and omg, there are so many!! I signed up for “plenty of fish” and got bombarded with messages within 24 hours lol. Not sure what to think of that yet… Definitely not interested in Tinder as that one seem like a hookup app.
Anyone used coffee meets bagel, okcupid, or bumble before??
Post # 2
I had the best luck on OkCupid – it’s where I met most of the guys I dated after my marriage ended and where I met now-DH.
PoF was terrible. I had a few dates off Tinder and they were meh. I tried Match, but found that everybody on Match was also on OKCupid in my area. I made a friend off Coffee Meets Bagel.
Post # 3
I definitely thought OkCupid was the best and I made a lasting friend from that site, but I met Darling Husband on Plenty of Fish. 🙂 Good luck!
Oh, and your ex is a total jackass saying that you’re too old to meet someone at 35 *rolls eyes* He was clearly being intentionally cruel when saying that. I met my Darling Husband at 35 and we got married when I was 37. You’re not too old at all, Bee.
Post # 4
DeniseSecunda : my ex called me the c and b word, told me on regular basis to stfu…. so yea, “total jackass” is probably a nice way to describe him lol
Post # 5
I had the best luck on bumble! That’s where I met my fiancé!
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2020 - Clarksville, VA
doubts : I met my Fiance on OkCupid. I tried Tinder and Bumble, but I liked the whole format of OkCupid the most. From the time I signed up to the time I met my Fiance was about three months.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!
I met my fiance on OKC (and a guy who ended up becoming a friend), and I know of people who had luck on CMB. I tried Tinder and Bumble briefly, but I felt like it was much easier to meet someone with high compatibility on OKC because of the way you could answer questions. Good luck! 😁
Post # 8
I used a ton… I would cycle through them. Tinder, bumble, plenty of fish, coffee meets bagel, match, eharmony, some Christian sites… it probably depends on your area but I honestly had the most success with Tinder. I met the most guys from there and not a single one was looking for a hook up, they were all genuinely interested in me and we went on normal dates. I met my ex bf and my now fiancé both on tinder. So it annoys me that everyone assumes it’s for hookups. I guess I made my bio read like I was looking for a relationship though, and it was easy for me to weed out some guys that were “just looking for fun”. It’s the same thing with any of the apps, really.
Coffee meets bagel was nice to use, and the guys on it seemed to be good quality, but at the time for me there was a small pool of people using it… so I went through all my “bagel options” fast. May be better now!
I had the LEAST success with the paid ones. Some would think that if they’re paying, they’re more serious about dating, but i really hardly even had conversations with people on those. Like it was dead. I also noticed people on the paid sites tend to also be on every other app as well.
My best advice is that it’s a game of numbers. You probably have to talk to A LOT of people and meet up with a lot before someone clicks and sticks. There will be a lot of ghosting and a lot of chats that fizzle out and you can’t let it get to you. But have fun with it!
Post # 9
I am probably the odd one out on this, but I met the love of my life on Tinder. Best decision of my life because if I never downloaded it I probably would have never met him!
Post # 10
I’m happy to hear that a lot of you had success with different apps. I’m gonna try to just relax a bit and have fun with it 🙂
Post # 11
I used Match, POF, OKCupid, Coffe Meets Bagel, Hinge, and Tinder.
Always went back to Tinder and met my fiancé on there. Took a lot of sorting out the douchebags though! Ha.
Post # 12
And just FYI, all dating sites (maybe beside e-harmony) are hook up sites one way or another. Match is known as mainly a hookup site in Chicago.
Post # 13
Another vote for okcupid. I will say I still got laughable messages and some crazies but there really does seem to be a lot of decent people on there as well. And you are never too old to find a partner, certainly not at 35 😂 thank goodness that guy is an ex!
Post # 14
I’ve probably used most of the apps at one time or another (Tinder, Match, e-harmony, OkCupid, Coffee Meets Bagel). I met quality guys on all of the apps, but you’re likely going to have to talk to lots of duds before you meet someone you click with.
Ultimately I met my current fiancé through mutual friends at 34. You’re definitely not too old to start over at 35! Good luck!
Post # 15
doubts : I’ve used all of those and some of my friends too and a different app has worked for everyone. I met my fiancé on POF but I will say he was one of the few exceptions than the norm. I know other people who met their SO on bumble, eharmony, and occasionally on tinder too (I didn’t try tinder like the interface of apps that had more focus on the photos and less on the profile).
ETA – I’m 29 and at 26-28, I used to think I was too old to meet someone so I don’t feel like 35 is too old.