Online Dating Apps

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Sugar bee

I love all of the Tinder success stories ❤️

Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn

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doubts :  I’ve never really used dating apps. Just chiming in to say you’re definitely not too old. I met my fiance when I was 36. I’ll soon be 39 and we’re getting married in May 😊

Post # 33
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Baby anything in a first message from someone would have them automatically blocked by me .Ew .

Your ex was abusive a**hole and it might be a great idea for you to see a professional to understand why you stayed with someone who called you names and put you down so you don’t repeat your past.

Post # 35
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Helper bee

I used tinder and bumble and met my current bf and soon to be fiance on tinder. Tinder can really be great!!

Post # 36
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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doubts :  So. I tried POF. Hated it, got bombarded with messages from creeps and losers. Tried Eharmoy. Thought I had met my perfect match, he turned out to be a psychopath. Really didn’t want to try Tinder, for the exact same reason as you, but gave it a shot and found it to be the best one. No unwarranted messages as we both had to swipe right on each other. Went on lots of rubbish dates but eventually found my Fiance. We get married in 6 weeks. Neither one of us wanted to be on Tinder but I am so glad we both gave it a shot.  

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

The thing with dating apps is they expose you to a ton of guys. So you just have to filter heavily and know what your standards are.

Met my fiance on Tinder. We were serious from date one. We clicked immediately and DTR about a month later to be exclusive but honestly we were exclusive from date one. We both knew.

In my area POF has a lot of scummy guys. Didnt try any others.

Post # 38
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Helper bee

I met my husband on POF but that was 7 years ago.  I’ve heard it’s gotten worse since then. If I were you I would try them all. There are creeps on every site. But there are also nice, genuine people who will all eventually try every site, just like you. You just have to come across them at the right time.

I will say that I was on POF (and other sites) off and on for a few years before I met Dh. Sometimes its just about timing.

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

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doubts :  Funny, everybody had bad experiences on the paid sites while I had the opposite experience.  See?….ya never know.  Met my now husband at the ripe old age of 44 so….waaaay over 35 here.

I really hope you will appreciate your alone time instead of fearing it bee.  If you let it, it can be the most fulfilling time of your life.  Yes you’re alone with only your thoughts but you get to figure out who you are without having someone try to tell you.  You can ugly cry and no one’s around to see, you can walk completely naked around your place if you want…..you answer to no one and no one’s around to criticize your thoughts, feelings or choices….its all you!   There’s really nothing to be afraid of because trust me……you will find love again.  

You just need to be open to whatever form it may take.  Deep breaths bee…. You’re about to enter unchartered territory…..and it can be glorius if you let it.

Oh and your ex is a insecure asshat.

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Since my divorce, my experience with online dating has been:

e-Harmony: Met two men, both of whom misrepresented themselves (as in they said they were serious relationship ready but ended up realizing they weren’t). Thankfully those “relationships” were short and sweet. Dates were few and far between. Lots of inactive profiles. 

Bumble: Lots of messages that resulted in very little follow-through when I had no interest in a hookup. 

OkCupid: Met a nice guy who seemed to be ready for a relationship post-divorce, but ended up having no energy to fit me into his schedule (kid and high stress job), so that didn’t work. 

There were many first and second dates that didn’t go further in the interim. 

Back to eharmony: Met my SO and the rest is history. He’s the greatest. 

 

My best advice is that you go on as many dates with as many reasonable prospects as you can. You should know after a couple dates whether someone is worth a few more evenings of your time. Don’t get too attached to quickly. Keep your eyes wide open for the first few months while searching for red flags. Aaaand when you know, you know. 😊

 

Post # 41
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Sugar bee

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doubts :  Nothing wrong with getting back out there! I met my hubby on an app 8 years ago 

youre gonna get some weirdos on there, dont let it discourage you. You dont have to rush into meeting anyone, sometimes its just nice to chat and get the feel for things. 

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Honestly, I liked Tinder when I was on it. It is a matter of knowing what to pick up on from guys’ profiles before deciding whether to swipe left or right. I generally had pretty good results and went on some nice dates with some nice dudes and had very few matches that ended up being dickheads. I basically avoided matching with anyone who struck me as a  douchebag.. like, dudes with shirtless gym pics, or pics of themselves out at a club or with a bunch of promo girls, shit like that. I looked for guys who’s pics were more chill and fun/outdoorsy. 

POF is a fuckin cesspool. Stay away.

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I met my husband on okCupid.  It was the only site I was on.  He was also on Match and eHarmony at the time, and liked okCupid the best.

Post # 45
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Newbee

I liked Bumble most because you can start the conversation and it felt overall more respectful than my tinder coverations. I tried Pof as well, but there wasn’t much in my area. Just know that with any dating app you’re going to have a few serious guys and plenty of  “f*** boys”.  I wasn’t ready for a serious relationship months after having lost my husband, but I met my best friend and now boyfriend on the site and I’m so thankful I did.  

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