- 1 year ago
I love all of the Tinder success stories ❤️
I love all of the Tinder success stories ❤️
Baby anything in a first message from someone would have them automatically blocked by me .Ew .
Your ex was abusive a**hole and it might be a great idea for you to see a professional to understand why you stayed with someone who called you names and put you down so you don’t repeat your past.
I am in therapy and it’s going well. I think one of the reasons I stayed with my abusive ex for so long was the fear of being alone (I’ve been in long term relationships since I was a teenager)…. and now as I get older the bio clock is ticking which scares me even more.
I signed up for a few meetup groups to make friends so I hope that’ll help me too.
I am very relieved that I finally broke up with my ex but once he’s actually out of the house, I think it’ll really hit me and I’ll feel lonely in my big house :/ but at least I won’t have to walk on eggshells anymore. I’ll be ok!
I used tinder and bumble and met my current bf and soon to be fiance on tinder. Tinder can really be great!!
The thing with dating apps is they expose you to a ton of guys. So you just have to filter heavily and know what your standards are.
Met my fiance on Tinder. We were serious from date one. We clicked immediately and DTR about a month later to be exclusive but honestly we were exclusive from date one. We both knew.
In my area POF has a lot of scummy guys. Didnt try any others.
I met my husband on POF but that was 7 years ago. I’ve heard it’s gotten worse since then. If I were you I would try them all. There are creeps on every site. But there are also nice, genuine people who will all eventually try every site, just like you. You just have to come across them at the right time.
I will say that I was on POF (and other sites) off and on for a few years before I met Dh. Sometimes its just about timing.
I really hope you will appreciate your alone time instead of fearing it bee. If you let it, it can be the most fulfilling time of your life. Yes you’re alone with only your thoughts but you get to figure out who you are without having someone try to tell you. You can ugly cry and no one’s around to see, you can walk completely naked around your place if you want…..you answer to no one and no one’s around to criticize your thoughts, feelings or choices….its all you! There’s really nothing to be afraid of because trust me……you will find love again.
You just need to be open to whatever form it may take. Deep breaths bee…. You’re about to enter unchartered territory…..and it can be glorius if you let it.
Oh and your ex is a insecure asshat.
Since my divorce, my experience with online dating has been:
e-Harmony: Met two men, both of whom misrepresented themselves (as in they said they were serious relationship ready but ended up realizing they weren’t). Thankfully those “relationships” were short and sweet. Dates were few and far between. Lots of inactive profiles.
Bumble: Lots of messages that resulted in very little follow-through when I had no interest in a hookup.
OkCupid: Met a nice guy who seemed to be ready for a relationship post-divorce, but ended up having no energy to fit me into his schedule (kid and high stress job), so that didn’t work.
There were many first and second dates that didn’t go further in the interim.
Back to eharmony: Met my SO and the rest is history. He’s the greatest.
My best advice is that you go on as many dates with as many reasonable prospects as you can. You should know after a couple dates whether someone is worth a few more evenings of your time. Don’t get too attached to quickly. Keep your eyes wide open for the first few months while searching for red flags. Aaaand when you know, you know. 😊
Honestly, I liked Tinder when I was on it. It is a matter of knowing what to pick up on from guys’ profiles before deciding whether to swipe left or right. I generally had pretty good results and went on some nice dates with some nice dudes and had very few matches that ended up being dickheads. I basically avoided matching with anyone who struck me as a douchebag.. like, dudes with shirtless gym pics, or pics of themselves out at a club or with a bunch of promo girls, shit like that. I looked for guys who’s pics were more chill and fun/outdoorsy.
POF is a fuckin cesspool. Stay away.
I met my husband on okCupid. It was the only site I was on. He was also on Match and eHarmony at the time, and liked okCupid the best.
Thank you bees!!
I do wanna know though, how do you learn to not get attached too quickly to a guy?? I’m an emotional person and have a tendency to tell people I love them early on and just get emotionally attached quickly. Maybe talking to more than one guy at a time will help. Or maybe not at all for now. Maybe i’m not ready to open up to someone yet and should spend time alone for a while …. I’m just all over the place right now while going through this breakup :/
I have been listening to matthew hussey and I’m gonna start to keep up my standards and not change just because a guy likes certain traits in a woman. He also says it’s important to not be too available for a guy in the beginning. Have your own life. I’ll try my best!
I liked Bumble most because you can start the conversation and it felt overall more respectful than my tinder coverations. I tried Pof as well, but there wasn’t much in my area. Just know that with any dating app you’re going to have a few serious guys and plenty of “f*** boys”. I wasn’t ready for a serious relationship months after having lost my husband, but I met my best friend and now boyfriend on the site and I’m so thankful I did.