Post # 46
doubts : I listened to a lot of advice like this too! & one of the biggest things I’ve learned is “you will NEVER be too much for the right person.” There is nothing you can do or say to drive off or scare away the right person. If you’re with someone and you feel have to change who you are to be with them for example you “falling to fast” let them go. I know it’s hard. Believe I’ve been there. I tend to be the same way, but there is someone out there who will love you for the way you are.
Post # 47
doubts : I am like you too and find it really hard not to get attached to anyone. But over time, with experience, you know what to watch out for.. red flags, warning signs, etc. So my advice to you would be to not think too much or have any expectations and just go on as many dates as you can and see what comes out of it. Try to meet people quickly after you feel like they’re trustworthy.. don’t wait more than a week or two max. I didn’t talk to multiple people but I did talk to people back to back.
Post # 48
Savvy.machelle : Completely agree that you’ll NEVER be too much for the right person and you’ll ALWAYS be too much for the wrong person. I was always getting the same advice (to not move too fast or show too much interest or initiate conversations) from male friends and online articles. I have always been the one pursuing people and prefer it that way and I feel that has worked best for me. My exes used to feel sufocated by me but my SO always wants MORE of me.
Post # 49
doubts : it is hard at first….mostly when you have a great connection with someone. However, you have to remember that when you are partaking in dating of the online variety, you have to assume that the other person is going on other dates and talking to other people. So to keep your sanity, it would be smart to continue to talk to other people while you are navigating what is happening.
Best case scenario, you have a DTR talk and then you cut off communication with the others and worst case is that it doesn’t work on and you move on to the next!
Post # 50
sboom : I agree about POF, it was pretty bad lol. I got some really perverted messages from guys there.
Post # 51
doubts : I met my FH on Match.com and found it was a good website for people looking for an actual relationship. You can usually find coupons for a free one-week trial. Funny enough, I paid for 6 months, FH had a one week trial, and we found eachother on day 2! I always tell him he was worth the $80 I paid for a 6-month membership (jokingly). I met a really great guy on POF, and I also met a guy I spent one year with on POF (though he turned out to be a horrendous cheater). I think that you can find people with good intentions and bad intentions on any website, honestly. It’s all about the person.
Post # 52
I did okcupid. But online dating went horribly for me. Had no issue getting dates and all that but the men were atrocious lol. I have too many stories and some are scary too. So. I would look outside of online dating PERSONALLY. I worry about girls using it.
Post # 53
My brother met his fiance on POF. They’re getting married in May 🙂
I’ve done all the sites but the paid ones and still am. As all PP said, you will have to get through the f***boys and guys just wanting to hookup to find the good ones.
POF is definitley filled with creepers though! There is this one account that constantly keeps getting deleted because he’s soliciting, but he always comes and always messages me the same thing asking if I want to make money. So annoying. But….just block the a$$holes.
Online dating opens you to people you would never meet in your normal day life and already establishes the attraction which I have always liked.
Hang in there! You can do it 🙂
Post # 54
I think online dating is good thing. It’s as great a place as any to meet new people and potentially someone special. There are many dating sites out there that cater to different people. First, decide what you are looking for and join accordingly. Nowadays there are many modern websites where you can even find for example dating a police man https://meetville.com/catalog/us/cg-4-professional/6700/police-officer I think it is very interesting:)