- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
So I’ve been single for about a month now and my friend thought I should just create a profile on POF just to gain my confidence back and flirt.. So I told her to set up an account for me and here’s week one of my POF.
I started chatting with Tom on Monday. He messaged me to chat and we just started chatting and then I began to tell him that I’m not looking for anything because I just got out of a very serious relationship and that my friend set up the profile for me because she wanted me to gain some confidence in myself. He said he was just looking for someone to talk too also because he just got out a plus 3 year relationship. So I thought, ok cool… He’s not looking for anything. I gave him my number to text and what not and I said, we could meet up for coffee or whatever later to chat and hang out… NOT DATE. He was cool with that. I didn’t set up any plans because I’m not ready for any of that yet.
So then on Tuesday he texts me asking me if I had fallen asleep yet because we were chatting earlier online and I just didn’t want to chat anymore so I made up an excuse to get off and said I would be back on later. I didn’t go on and he text and I didn’t respond and then he text me good night. Then the next morning I told him, yeah sorry I fell asleep. Then he texts later saying it feels like an in-n-out type of day.. I’m like ok, whatever and then says hope traffic isn’t bad. I told him I had an eye appointment and then later he text asking me how my appt was and I told him long and pointless. He asked if I just got home and I said yeah and he asked if I was tired and I said yeah and I asked him how his day was (just being nice). He said he went for a 4 mile walk and asked if I wanted to plan something for the weekend. I purposely ignored his question. Then he says, “I feel like I’m a teenager again” and I’m like… Ummm… OKAY.. “Why do you say that?” I ask and he says, “The lack of physically intimacy from the past year is getting in the way of me being productive at times.” I see that text and I’m like WTF?! So I respond with, “TMI” and he was like, “Ok, Miss Shade of Grey” and I said, I’m just reading a book. Then he says, “I think I said it in a very well mannered, no offensive way.” Blah blah, small chat and he asks again about the weekend so I said “On Saturday, I’m going to Anaheim to LA to Rancho to Burbank.. busy day and on Sunday I’m going back to Burbank.” And he was like, “Why so busy?” DUDE… I can have a life, right? And I said, “I’ve been told to stay busy.. so I make plans to stay busy.” And he says, “So Friday is a no go as well then” and I said, “Tentative plans”
Him: To do what? Sorry, I’m super nosy sometimes. (no kidding Sherlock) Wanna make me your backup?
Oh gosh, this guy is desperate.
Me: My friend invited me out. I don’t want you to not make plans because of me.
Him: I don’t have plans because I just don’t have any, if we make plans, they would be the only ones that I have except for Saturday afternoon. I am just perpetually free.
Buddy, don’t you have friends? You have stage five clinger written all over you.
I asked him if he hangs out with his friends and he said that they make plans at the last minute and they’ve all moved to the long beach area. I didn’t respond. That text was send at 10:53 then I get another text at 11:00, “What are you up too?” Again, I didn’t respond.
Thursay, I get, “Having fun at work?” Again, I didn’t respond. Then at 8:10 PM, “How was your day?” So I respond.
Me: It was ok, how was yours?
Blah blah blah.. small chat
So then he asks, What are you doing?
Me: About to hang out with my ex. (I have an interesting relationship with my ex, another post for another day)
Me: Yeah. (Okay, I’m done texting now.)
I’m with my ex and we’re hanging out talking… I went to go watch him play hockey (I know, I know, why am I watching him play hockey?)
I check my phone afterwards and I have four messages..
Him: Want some support for afterwards? (8:34 PM)
Phone call, bottle, box of tissues…(8:35 PM)
What would you prefer? (8:40 PM)
Maybe some chocolate or ice cream? (8:52 PM)
I’m like.. OH MY GOD.
An hour later:
Him: How’s it going? Everything ok? (9:51 PM)
I don’t respond.
Him: Let me know. (10:47 PM)
Him: Can I call you? (11:29 PM)
I don’t say anything.
6 minutes later.. Phone rings. (11:35 PM)
You got to be effing kidding me.
Message on Plenty of Fish account: sorry about sending so many messages. i get impatient. (11:47PM)
Why are you getting impatient with me? You have no right…
Text: Sorry for sending so many messages (11:49 PM)
Phone rings (11:53PM)
I wake up Friday morning to check my messages on the site.. Right when I get on at 6:50AM.. I get a notification that he wants to chat.. WTH?! He’s online at freaking 6:50… Was he waiting? Did he not sleep? I got off quickly.
So I get to work, I send him a message and say, “”i dont appreciate that mass amount of texts that you have been sending me nor appreciate you calling me late at night. please remove my phone number and do not contact me thereafter.”
I blocked him from the site and I hope he gets the message and doesn’t contact me. Really creepy, right?
Anyone else have interesting stories? 🙂