(Closed) Online dating is for losers/ugly people and other stigmas……

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 106
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

My Fiance and I went to college together but he is super shy so he was always afraid to approach me in person. We both were on Okcupid and I was his top match. He then appropached me and we started talking online. We were both very busy and involved in our studies and I honestly do not know if we would have started talking if it had not been for online dating. There is no shame in using a dating website but it is a personal choice. I would personally recomend it, but I am biased ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 107
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Newbee

I also met my current husband on OkCupid. This was almost exactly three years ago and I was a bit embarassed about telling people back then, but it is so much more common now. Many people go the various dating apps to find love. Luckily, he was my first and only date on OKC and we are now married and expecting our first child together. ๐Ÿ™‚

I enjoyed reading “Modern Love” by Aziz Ansari, which gave some insight as to why online dating is so popular, but can be rough!

 

Post # 109
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Worker bee

I met my Fiance on OKCupid! We had a 99% match score. ๐Ÿ™‚ Lol. I had used online dating for awhile and yes you will fine weird people but I met quite a few great guys on there as well that just didn’t work for whatever reason. It’s totally normal now.

Post # 110
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I met my Fiance online on Date My School, one of the lesser known sites (we were still in college). My mom was actually the one who encouraged it, set up my profile and started messaging him because I had the legit flu that week. We were the first people each of us messaged and eventually met. 

Post # 111
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I too met my fiance online on okcupid, and we are both far from ugly or losers. He is an Area Sales Manager for SoCal and Arizona for an oil company, and I am a business analyst. 

My advice- know exactly what you want. Take it all with a pinch of salt, grow a thick skin, and remember that a LOT of people you will meet are really shopping, so make it clear and lay your cards on the table without fear. I never liked the idea of dating several people at the same time, but several people seem to enjoy it. Eventually I met someone who was as blunt and honest as I am…I cannot lie, I am so happy to not be in the dating scene anymore. 

Post # 112
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Buzzing bee

Fiance is hot and young. We met online. I pretty much only date online. I feel safer talking to someone online for a few days/ weeks/whatever before meeting them then going out with someone I meet in a bar or whatever.

Post # 113
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: LA Athletic Club

My fiancé and I met online. We started out as friends and I eventually (even after meeting in person) grew to love him. My fiancé and I were both finishing graduate school, studying for our boards and working so it was difficult to meet someone or have free time. Online dating allowed me to be “picky,” “selective” and choose the qualities I am looking for. I don’t think there is a stigma behind online dating anymore. The majority of my friends met their husbands/SO online. 

Post # 114
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I had tried online dating for a bit, I only dated one guy for a few months, but it didn’t work out. Funny thing is we met through friends before hand but didn’t talk much. I just hated dating to begin with so I really didn’t care for it. Although, some of the people that contact you say hilarious things. 

There is nothing wrong with online dating. 

Post # 115
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

 

footprints :  go for it, I married mine ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 116
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

I met my soon to be fiancée (I already know he’s proposing on our vacation!) on Plenty of Fish. I had been doing online dating for about 2 years and I think we knew by the 2<sup>nd</sup> or 3<sup>rd</sup> date that we were “the one.” I am a huge supporter of online dating for a few reasons. First, it’s the fastest and easiest/convenient way to meet the most people at once. I was 22 when I met my bf but I still didn’t want to waste my time. Second, you can prescreen men for what you’re looking for. I was in college and just needed someone a little older and more mature. I have always wanted to get married and have kids and so I knew older men would be a better fit. So basically, you can set up a search parameter and I looked up men who were 24+ who were employed with a car that didn’t have any kids. I know it sounds really mean to weed out a bunch or men, who I’m sure, were great guys. But bottom line is that online dating is a great way to find exactly what you’re looking for. You can’t just run into a cute guy in a Starbucks and ask him how old he is, if he has a job, if he has kids, if he’s been married in 2 seconds like you can with online dating.

Long story short, through my experience I met a lot of really great guys and eventually met “the one” for me. He is exactly what I was looking for and I knew from the beginning he actually wanted a girlfriend and not just a hookup.

I think any site is at least worth a try. Tinder always looked fun to me but it got popular after I was taken…whomp whomp. Lol.

Good luck searching!

Post # 117
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I dated online and eventually met my husband.  My sister met hers and I know tons of couples that met that way too.  For what it is worth we just celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary and my sister is past the ten year mark.

Post # 118
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I had great experiences with online dating.  I met my fiancé on okcupid.  He struck up a conversation on there and we continued onto texting and then had our first date.  Our first date was a lunch date that ended up lasting 12 hours because we didn’t want to leave each other.  A week later we were in an exclusive relationship.  Now, 3 and a half years later we’re looking forward to our wedding next month.  There are great guys out there, you just have to put the time and effort into finding them.  This was not the first date that I went on from that site.  There were definitely duds, but you need to be willing to sift through those guys to get to the ones that make it worth it!

Post # 119
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I think the negative stigma about online dating being for losers/ugly people, etc. has faded. These days, I just feel that everyone is too busy to be trying to go out and find someone in bars and etc. I also feel that with online dating, there is less pressure because you can take as much time as you need before meeting up. Also there is no awkwardness between the parties if for i.e. a friend set you up with another friend and it didn’t work out. In my opinion, online dating is just the new wave of dating, with technology and busy life style, it’s a good option to meet people and possible matches.

My husband and I actually met via an online dating site. If it wasn’t for it, we probably would have never met. The funny thing is we do have common friends and have been to the same places  but never seen each other. hahahaha

Post # 120
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

i met my now husband off myspace back when it was “cool”(2006-2007 era). lol. 

both of us recieved A LOT of heat for meeting each other online for quite a few years, plus with the age gap (6 years) made it even more open for criticism. 

but that was back in the time before all this online dating sites, hookup apps and facebook really blew up. 

Now a days i hardly bat an eye when people tell me they met their SO online. 

Post # 121
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

footprints :  I met my hubby online through RSVP and we have been together ten years. He is the sweetest greatest guy in the world. I am so glad I took the chance and joined. 

You will always get some dodgy people but that happens IRL too. You just ignore and move on with your day. My hubby got proposition by a few single moms looking for a quick late night booty call whilst kids were asleep. Hubby was totally grossed out by that because he is very not into FWB and one nighters. I got lots of Fat Admirers who told me they love my curves  in graphic detail and as an extra selling point they thought it would be advantageous to tell me that with them I could eat what ever I wanted… Eeew! That totally grossed me out and made me feel like a piece of meat.. I still screw up my face when I think of it ten years later!!!

Try internet dating but I second using paid sites and avoiding tinder cause from what many single friends tell me most people on it  are looking for hook ups not love. If you want just hook ups then I’m sure its fun!!

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