Post # 17
We met on OKCupid. I like/liked it a lot because it’s 100% free (so you don’t have issues with some people being paid members and others free members and not being able to communicate), and because it’s full of quizzes and interesting posts about the statistics they’ve found. It makes logging on and updating your profile a lot of fun.
There’s a few reasons I was unwilling to use eharmony – the most important being that I was looking to date both men and women – so philosophically I am kind of opposed to eharmony, but it’s also pretty impractical if it’s screening out people I want to date! I’m also a much more casual dater… I didn’t want to go out with people feeling the pressure of being formally matched by an algorithm.
Post # 18
We met on Match.com. I’ve heard great things about OKCupid from friends currently out there dating. Everyone I know hates EHarmony. I found the setup on that site to be frustrating, the pool of people to choose from to be overly religious/conservative (in my area) and I hated that I couldn’t search for someone – the site had to bring them to me. Not a fan.
Post # 19
I met my SO on match.com…. Initially I was very skeptical about the whole online dating thing, but it worked out very well!!! I did go on a few other dates before my bf that weren’t so great (not terrible either, though), but my bf and I just hit it off right away! I think that being able to email back and forth before meeting (we did so for about a month) made me feel pretty comfortable with him, even on our first date. Now we joke that we should be on the match commercials cause we couldnt be happier with the results! I also know several other couples that met on match also and are very happy with the result too… even a few marriages!
I did try eharmony for a very short while. I thought that their way of getting to know one another was very awkward. Basically you had to ask and answer 3 questions about yourself before being able to just talk to a match. So even if they sent me someone who was a good match, I had to answer 3 lame questions and wait for him to do the same before actually talking to him. Needless to say, I quit pretty quickly and was very happy to get my money back since it was pretty expensive!
Post # 20
MATCH!! Met my bf on there…no one else…him either. We took our profiles down very quickly and neither of us ever looked back.
I tried EHarmony too..but you can only talk to people via the communication questions and it’s a whole process before you can freely email… that didn’t jive with me.
Post # 21
Wow! Thanks to all of you for being so open about this! 🙂
Ya’ll have given some insights to these sites that I definitely did not know.
Good food for thought!
Post # 22
We met on plentyoffish.com We both had only been on the site about 2 weeks when we meet. After that the rest was history…..
Post # 23
I’m biased towards Match.com. My Fiance and I met off of there. I’m glad that more and more people are meeting off of these sites. It doesn’t make our relationship seem so strange! lol I recommend it to singles every chance I get 🙂
Post # 24
I’ve heard really good things about Eharmony and personally know a few married couples who met on Jdate (I have a lot of Jewish friends!).
I like to think about it in terms of “If I were still single”. And honestly being 29 if I were still single I’d probably sign up for Eharmony or use a professional matchmaking service.
Post # 25
match.com!! My fiancé and I met on that site 5 years ago…and yep! we’re getting married! It truly does work! I was also on eharmony, but I didn’t like the fact that you couldn’t see people until the “matched” you with them. (that was a loooonggg time ago, so they may have changed it).
Post # 26
I’m new to the online dating sites (I use OkCupid and Plenty of Fish) and have an issue I’m really struggling with: How do you ladies deal with the jealousy that crops up when, even if you really like someone and you think they like you, you see that the guy is still logging into his account? We’ve only had a couple of dates so far, but it really bothers me no end to see that he’s online. I’m terrified of falling for someone who is using the site to date around. I can understand the temptation of having so many options just a mere click away, and I don’t expect us to be exclusive or anything after only a few dates… but I’m insecure nonetheless. How do you deal with it?
Post # 28
Hmm… that’s one of the things I liked about OKCupid – that people were using it more to date around, have fun, and maybe meet someone serious. It was more what I was looking to do, and put a lot less pressure on every date.
I know other people who have ended up married to people off of sites like that, so I think you just need to look at is as if someone asks you out in another setting. Just because they might be asking out other people, meeting other girls through friends, etc doesn’t mean that nothing will work out between you or that he’s uninterested in a relationship.
He may also be very interested in you, but getting emails and notifications. While I knew I was really into my fiance from date 1 or 2, I would still click the link and log in if I got a notification. If you had a discussion about being exclusive and he was still logging in repeatedly, that’d be a different story, but I think just don’t read anything into it.
Also – if you know he’s logging in, doesn’t that mean you’re logging in too? 😉
Post # 29
I liked eHarmony over match.com because of one factor:
1. I could limit my search easily to only show childfree men. I thought Match didn’t do quite as good a job limiting the parameters.
However, as far as paid vs. free matchmaking sites (i.e., eharmony vs. plentyoffish), I would go with paid all the way. People who buck up the dough are by far and large going to care more about their communication and dating experience because they’ve invested in it beforehand.
Post # 30
@Entangled: Thanks so much! I just really needed someone to tell me how silly I’m being. I totally understand that if we didn’t meet through the channels of online dating websites (i.e., if we met in real life), he would still be meeting other girls at the same time! It’s just that online dating websites are so much more… in your face, if you know what I mean.
And thank you for reminding me that, just like I log in to check my messages when I get notifications, he could be logging in simply to do the same (as opposed to aggressively searching for other dating possibilities. I have an overly active imagination. : D
Sorry if I somewhat hijacked the thread!
Post # 31
My Fiance and I met on OK Cupid. He was my first online date.