Post # 1
Before I met my ex, I use to try online dating but never found anything fruitful. I met my last through mutual friends so online seems foreign to me again.
i created an account tonight to see what’s out there and it’s literally the same men from years back!
im starting to feel online dating is no longer successful. I feel like most men on there are searching for hookups.
Post # 2
met DH on okcupid. To be fair–I was only interested in casual dating. I went on a bunch of one-off dates that were pretty decent, then I went on a couple dates with DH. He asked me to break it off with the others, so I did and the rest is history.
Post # 3
I met Fiance on Tinder. Like amanda1988 I was just using it casually but after a few months I met Fiance and just knew right away it’s as different than the others had been. Many are just looking for one thing, but I think that’s everywhere and not just online lol
Post # 4
I’ve met a few great guys online. There are so many sites out there. It’s also a good confidence booster to constantly have new men talking to you. It helps get the mind off the ex.
With anything online, be safe and cautious. You never know who you’re talking to. But as long as you meet up in public and check in with a friend you should be fine. Good luck!
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
*waves*. DH and I met on eHarmony; I felt very much like the paid sites were FAR better than the free ones, because anyone willing to cough up $$ was going to be more serious about it. My flatmate at the time also met his now wife on eHarmony. I did have a LOT of first dates over about four months before meeting DH.
Post # 6
Met my husband on hotornot (10 years ago), which is hardly the best place to do so. The other guys that I met with via various sites were all perfectly good people as well, including one I dated a few months and got into a fun hobby with. You’ve really got to pick through them and make sure they are people of substance before bothering to meet them. If they can’t hold a coherent conversation, if some of their interests and such are red flags, it’s just not worth it. I know some people who choose based solely on looks and then are shocked when the guy does the same and turns out to not be into their looks. You reap what you sow in that case and they really needed to get more sensible about their options and aim more for personality. Heck, if I’d gone just by looks at the start, I’d have never bothered chatting with and would not be married to this man today and I can’t imagine anyone else.
Post # 7
Met my current boyfriend on OkCupid! I went on a few first dates before meeting him with nice guys, but we clicked instantly. We became exclusive after a few months and the rest is history! Hoping a proposal is coming soon 🙂
Online dating is a great tool to meet new guys who are also interested in getting to know new people. Be careful, maybe use a GoogleVoice number at first and always meet in public and let friends know where and when. But give it a go! It may work out for you
Edited to add: Just saw you were annoyed about the same hookup dudes. There’s a lot of that online, to be fair, but more on some sites. Apps and free services will generally have more of that, than places like match or eHarmony. But Okcupid worked for me, because I heavily used the message filters and the questions to find good matches.
Post # 8
I met my FH on OKCupid 🙂 we went on our first date 1/11/15 and are getting married 12/2/17. I couldn’t be happier. There are a lot of bad eggs out there but you just have to weed through the bad ones to find the diamond in the rough. I made it VERY clear I was looking for more than a hookup. I also had rules as to which I would respond to a message and they were listed on the last part of the profile in the “what are you looking for” section. Sounds mean, but it helped weed through. I didn’t want someone who wore a straight billed baseball hat. I needed a message that was not along the lines of “hey how are you” and moreso something that could spark conversation. It worked 😍
Post # 9
I think it’s hit or miss. I met DH on craigslist personals. It’s a miracle we found each other.
Post # 10
Another app dating success story with my now-fiance. 🙂 But I went on tons of dates with duds before meeting him. I do think it’s a numbers game.
Post # 11
My fiancé and I met on Coffee Meets Bagel. Lots of young professionals there. You only receive one match at the same time every day, so you aren’t bombarded with messages. Also, over time, as you pass and like, the site becomes more attuned to your preferences. As PPs have stated, online dating (or dating in general for that matter) really is hit or miss. All in all, I’m incredibly blessed to have met my Fiancé. My advice would be to stay safe and have fun!!
Post # 12
I went on three dates with a nice guy I met on Match who I didn’t really have chemistry with. When he called to say he wasn’t really feeling it, I agreed and asked if I could set him up with a good friend of mine instead.
They got married three years later and I was the guest of honor at their wedding. Eight years and two kids for them later, that’s the most successful online dating story I can think of. You never know how things are going to turn out!
Post # 13
I met my DH on Plenty of Fish 10 years ago.
Post # 14
I met DH on OkCupid almost five years ago.
I was online dating for two years before we met. I went on lots of awkward dates, or dates where men only wanted one thing. I had a handful of people I went out with more than once, but no one I officially dated until I met DH. I met him, and everything was different. Before we met, I felt like I’d NEVER meet anyone. To me, online dating took effort, but it was SO worth it once I met DH.
Post # 15
I met my fiancé on match. We hit it off pretty much instantly. I would never have found him any other way. I agree, paid sites are the way to go if you’re serious about meeting someone.