Online dating success stories?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I met my Fiance on plenty of fish. I dated online off and on for years before he popped up in my matches. There were definitely a lot of creeps, you just have to weed through those to find the good ones. I immediately felt comfortable with my Fiance on our first date, and that’s how I knew he was different from everyone else I had met online. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

I dated online for 5 years or so. I met WONDERFUL men, some of whom I dated for a while, some of whom didn’t work out. I met a few men with whom I’ve even remained friends (one is coming to my wedding with his fiancee!). 

There are plenty of men who are looking for relationships online–why wouldn’t there be? It’s such a standard way to date now that it would be strange to think that the people there weren’t looking for something real. Frankly, it’s easier to hook up at a club for straight-up sex, since everyone is drunk and it’s dark and such. You have to court someone online a bit, have some conversation, etc. That sounds much more difficult for just a hookup (which is probably why Grinder and Tinder came to be). 

Anyway, online dating wasn’t truly successful for me for about 5 years when I met my now-fiance on PlentyofFish. ๐Ÿ™‚ If you’re using online dating as way to date, don’t give up! It can certainly happen ๐Ÿ™‚ And you might get some good friends out of it too! 

Post # 19
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I pretty much only dated online for 2-3 years and had mostly good experiences. Especially as I was 27-29 during those years most of my friends were already in relationships and I had already met all of their boyfriends’ friends. Also for me, I thought it was actually nicer to date online vs “in real” as I found it easier to get through the initial questions online. Also learned to REALLY trust my instinct. 

Met my fiancé on happn. We did have friends in common which I think helped a lot, but still, without happn no wedding coming up ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

I tried a couple different sites for online dating before I met Darling Husband. I agree that the paid sites seem to have more people looking for serious relationships. I dated a couple guys from Match, but those never went anywhere. I met my Darling Husband on Catholic Match (where I also talked with a couple really great guys). We almost missed eachother because I signed up just as Darling Husband decided he was giving up on online dating!

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Another Match story… dabbled and went on one date (went ok, no chemistry). Gave up/my initial subscription ran out and I then returned to Match two years later. I went on two dates with one guy, same story as before. Next guy I met, well…I marry him in August. I was the first girl he met up with.

I agree paid sites are better. I also had some mental ground rules before I’d respond/engage with anyone that I think weeded out chancers [I also abided by these rules myself to be fair!]:

– More than one picture, face and hair clearly visible in at least some of them

– A fully completed profile that was largely grammatically correct (given that it’s their shop window and one time job to write it!). Also it irritated me if there was something wildly out of date on there/indicative that they hadn’t ever updated their profile or had reactivated it after a period offline and not brought it up to date.

– They didn’t need to be first to message but any first message needed to reference something in my profile and any reply to a first message of mine needed to reference something I said to show they had actually read my profile/message and were’t sending scattergun duplicate messages (far too many cut and pasters out there!). I decided that “Hey, you look lovely, I love your profile” didn’t really cut it!

 

 

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’m another bee that met my husband on OkCupid. He was also on Match and eHarmony, but said that the selection and the questions were best on OkCupid. I used the site on and off for a year or two before I met Darling Husband. I’d go on a few dates, then wait a few months for a new batch of guys, and go on a few more dates.

The trick to to find what site people are using in your city. It seems like a different one is popular in every different city.

Post # 23
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

findinghappy :  I met many terrible men on online dating. I was looking for the real deal and most people wanted more casual, but I met my SO on Tinder and literally could not be more happy.

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2026

I had horrible experiences with online dating and A BUNCH of creepy messages. I was new to dating though and wasn’t very good at weeding out sleazy guys. I almost quit dating forever and was ready to live my life as a single old cat lady. I usually text the guys before I meet them and it’s amazing how many people out there have issues. There was this guy that blew up on me for some random insignificant thing that I don’t even remember about. And then persisted to harass me with text walls. Then when I ignored him, he decided it was okay to contact me like normal. 

Thankfully I met my husband. Although he turned out to be a weirdo as well, he wasn’t a creepy one. 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee

My friend met her husband on Tinder a few years ago. I know it’s mostly used for hooking up, but it worked for them. She was 29 and he was maybe 34 at the time. They’re now married with a baby on the way. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Met my Darling Husband on myspace (LOL, 8 years ago). We lived near each other but probably would have never met otherwise because we went to different schools. It worked for us!

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - Massachusetts

lahela017 :  This is a very good point! I noticed that guys my age in Boston mostly used OKCupid. I had tried Match and EHarmony and to be honest- I had the most responses from OKCupid! 

I don’t have any successful stories to add here, just my two cents about which sites are popular by area. I gave up trying for a bit.

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

Plenty of Fish here. My husband messaged me after 1 day on there. I went on a few dates, all of which were normal good guys. I think there are good people on both free and paid sites, I do agree with PPs though that your success on various sites can depend on your area and what stage in life you are. I met my husband when I was in grad school and nobody had enough money to be on paid sites, so most of the guys of my peer group were on free sites. If I was working as a professional in my late 20s, paid sites may have been better. I was just trying out online dating for the first time so it made sense to try a free site first. 

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I met Darling Husband on Tinder and his BFF met her Darling Husband there too! I have online dated several times over the last 10 years and always got a kick out of it. Sometimes I was just looking for something casual, the last time I was looking for…exactly what I got! The man of my dreams with whom I’m going to spend the rest of my life! I am a total believer in online dating. Just do it with an open mind, don’t let it get you down, have fun, and be safe! 

Post # 30
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Sugar bee

I think the important thing to remember is that there will be creeps and winners in any dating pool, and the creeps are usually the loudest. Sure, you’ll sift through tons of gross messages in online/app dating, but that’s true of in person too – you’ll get catcalls and gross pick up lines in bars more often than you’ll get a sincere handsome sweetheart randomly approaching you in a bookstore to ask for your number (that was my dating fantasy and it literally never happened).  You have to be impervious to the weirdos and keep trusting that there will be some good ones in there. You only need to find one person you’re compatible with after all.

I personally made it a project to go on an average of 1 date a week the last time I was single. I was dating with the intention of finding a life partner, and I wanted to give myself good odds of finding someone, so I agreed to go on a date as long as I couldn’t see any red flags I thought I could be attracted to someone. I didn’t have too many hopes about any one guy I was meeting up with, so it took the pressure off and allowed me to enjoy it more and not be anxious. 

If I had waited for the perfect guy to ask me out in real life, it never would have happened – my social circle is small, I’m busy and in a field that is dominated by women, and I’m a homebody who rarely is out at bars or other places where people get approached.

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