Online dating success stories?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Helper bee

I know 6 couples who met and married people they met online.

others are in long term relationships.

they are all in their 20s and 30s however

Post # 32
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Sugar bee

I met my husband on…plentyoffish…back in 2011 after I made the first move (he looked at my profile but didn’t message me cause he’s a wuss). Not sure what the site is like now, or if any of the dating apps are for more than just hookups, but it certainly worked for me. Just takes patience to get through the creeps and casual hookup seekers. 

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

Another OKC couple, here. I tried every single dating app around multiple times. In my case, I have an EPIC case of RBF so essentially never met people in person. It was just an avenue like any other; I know plenty of people who met in a bar and this isn’t a whole lot different in my experience.

There were tons of jerks. Lots of really nice guys I wasn’t interested in. Plenty of guys I WAS interested in who didn’t give me the time of day. Fiance was the first guy I was interested in who I didn’t message, who reached out and made first contact.

I actually had the opposite experience with paid sites. All of the dates I had that went anywhere good came from either Tinder. Craigslist, or OKC.

Like anything else, it’s just an avenue. Like joining Meetup or an adult sports league. Don’t take the process too seriously. Make the first time you meet someone just that; a meeting. It isn’t a “date” until you decide you like them enough to take that step.

There are plenty of examples of successful relationships that started online. You just have to approach the process with a sense of humor and a fair amount of patience, but it can yield wonderful results.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I met my Darling Husband on Match! It took a long time weeding through some not so great dates before I met him though. I took breaks from online dating every once in a while. I’m glad I gave it another try! Immediately after meeting him I thought to myself, this one feels different…😊

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

I met my fiance on Tinder of all places 3 years ago this month.  We may have been the exception to the rule because neither of us were looking for a quick hook up.  I distinctly remember telling him on our first “real” date – our first true date was just coffee and talking at Starbucks, so technically the 2nd date where we had a nice dinner and spent time together – that I would never marry again and he wholeheartedly agreed that he would never marry again either.  But look at us now lol.

I was widowed about 12.5 years ago after being married just under 5 years, and he was married approximately 4 months before divorcing 16 years ago.

In my opinion 99% of men on dating apps/websites are just looking for sex, but there are always those who aren’t.  It just might not be so easy to find them.  Good luck.

Post # 36
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Busy bee

my fiance and i met on JSwipe. i think online dating is amazing, and i don’t know if we would have crossed paths in life without it!

i also invested in a dating coach when i was single. my love life issues were more about my inner work that needed to be done than variables like venue of dating. When i worked on myself i stopped tolerating low effort men, and attracted some really amazing ones, one of which im getting married to in May 🙂

don’t give up, think of it as fun and an adventure.

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Have a friend who met her husband on OkCupid. Another who met hers on Tinder, and SIL and Brother-In-Law met on match. 

Post # 38
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Helper bee

Met my fiance on plentyoffish, this was over 5 years ago so I don’t know if anyone uses that anymore even. Which was (is?) free, I also know like 5 other couples who met on there and ended up married. 

So, I disagree that you need a paid site. You just have to be smart and know what you’re looking for and hopefully you’ll find your someone. 

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: St. petersburg, FL

Another PlentyofFish couple right here! We started talking on that app, went on a brunch date about a month after we started talking, and then started dating exclusively just about two weeks after our first date. Now we’ve been together for about 3.5 years. 

I did have to go on quite a few dates… only went on one that was borderline weird. The rest were normal enough guys, but just not right for me, which is fine. Online dating can be hit or miss, but it’s definitely worth a shot! Just be safe. 

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

We met on Tinder. I was just using it casually and was very upfront about what I wanted. I told everyone that I wasn’t looking for a relationship (I wasn’t at the time), and that I wouldn’t be physical right away. I wanted the middle ground- no sex or attachment. Mostly because I wanted to get to know a lot of potential people very objectively. I found great success with it when I was open with men about what I wanted. I found that many guys were eventually looking for relationships, but just didn’t want to fall into something with the wrong person. I found it pretty easy to just keep seeing people I didn’t REALLY like because it was accessible… wading through it and finding true matches was pretty difficult. 

My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I started seeing each other with the intention of it being casual and temporary… and we just happened to fall for each other pretty fast. It was entirely accidental. But I’m pretty glad it worked out that way!

 

My sister also met her husband on tinder. I know a good number of successful tinder couples as well- it’s become pretty commonplace!

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I met Darling Husband on Okcupid July of 2013, married use 2016. I was on Okcupid from 18-25, 18-23 I went on nearly 200 first dates, out of those maybe 50 second dates, and maybe 10 longer term dating. Honestly it was my age, 24 I didn’t date I was over it. I started dating again right before I met Darling Husband at 25 and went on 2 dud dates. Him on the other hand had just joined and only been on I think 2 or 3 dates with other girls. Our relationship was easy, we lived close and had the same goals. We also didn’t drag out the talking before our first date  and met in 3 days and from there we saw each other almost every day.

Biggest advice is don’t go out with a guy who’s been on there for years. They were always the worse and pushed for sex. I also advocate being honest and not hide what you’re looking for.

Post # 42
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Newbee

findinghappy :  I felt the same way as you! Had not dated for years and was content being single, signed up for an account secretly just so I wouldn’t have regrets or wonder “what if” in my 90s, and wanted to cancel immediately! It was a free trial, so I coudn’t leave until it ran its course, so I stopped syncing it to my e-mail. A few days later, I decided to give it more than a day and changed my attitude from pessimistic and cynical to optimistic. Not even two weeks later I received a message from a man who I liked immediately. We chatted a bit online which turned into texting and then a phone call where we arranged a date a few days later. That was back in 2015 and our wedding is set for next year. 🙂

I know it’s hard and there are some serious trolls on those sites, but keep at it. I know someone who met her husband on the last day of her 6-month trial & it’s worked for so many people, so I am now a believer.

Post # 43
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Busy bee

I only have horror stories so I will move along.

 

Post # 44
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I met my soon-to-be on POF.

Our first date was very awkward and cute and it feels like so long ago! I wish we had a cuter “How did you two meet?” story because almost everyone I know met their current significant other online! (Including my sister who just recently got engaged!)

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Church and University

amanda1988 :  OKCupid for Darling Husband and I too!  I thought this was the BEST site because of all the questions they as AS WELL AS how important the answers are to you.  Really helped whittle choices….not that I had a ton, lol! One date with my Darling Husband and I was hooked.

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