(Closed) Online RSVP

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it okay to do an online RSVP?
    Yes : (23 votes)
    66 %
    No : (8 votes)
    23 %
    Other : (4 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    818 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    My only questions is this: will everybody you invite be comfortable rsvping online? Grandparents, etc?

    I like the idea but there are some who aren’t that comfy with technology.

    Post # 4
    1209 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I am thinking about doing this as well. You just need to have an alternative for older guests that may not be so internet savvy.

    Post # 5
    166 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think online RSVPs are great (less postage AND eco-friendly!), but I do know that a friend did them and some of the older/less tech savvy people just did not get it at all. So you might want to do online RSVPs for most of your invitees and then make up just a few reply cards for people that you anticipate will need them perhaps.

    Post # 6
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    if you don’t want to spend the time to make the website, quite a few wedding websites actually offer this feature!

    Do you have anyone on your list who isn’t very tech savvy (grandparents, etc)? You might want to consider a few RSVP cards for the older generation only!

    Post # 8
    363 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House

    I did it this way!  Funnily enough, the handful of people that I made up RSVP cards for, just asked friends or family to RSVP for them online anyways!

    Post # 9
    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Another way to do it is to have people rsvp the old-fashioned way, where they write you a little note saying either yes, we’re excited to come, or no, sorry we can’t make it.  And each household pays the 50 cents it costs to mail it.  Technically, that’s even more correct than rsvp cards, and it saves massively on postage.  Grandparents might really like how it’s so personal.  I hate rsvp cards so that’s what I’m doing!

    Post # 10
    188 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I think it’s fine for most people, but I would also list a phone number they can RSVP to for the older guests

    Post # 11
    5496 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Guess this is just one of a few areas in which I’m traditional-I personally don’t like the idea of online RSVP’s, but it seems as if most people do like it, so I guess I’m in the minority! LOL I agree with what the others said-be sure to have a different method for the older guests.

    Post # 12
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We did it but we also added our home phone number (complete with personalized “if you’re RSVPing for the X-Y wedding….” voicemail”) for those who didn’t do it.

    Post # 13
    1482 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I am impressed that you have so many tech-savvy people in your family!  My mother can barely check her email 🙂

    I would still include traditional response cards for anyone over the age of, oh, say 40.  This is purely because I have a feeling that generation might feel uncomfortable with the onine RSVP regardless of how familiar they are with the computer. 


    Post # 14
    177 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Hmm, that’s a toughy. Maybe 10 years ago I’d say absolutely not, but nowadays it’s becoming a bit more common, though it’s still not as formal as a snail mail invite, I’m sure you could pull it off.

    I have a tight budget also, but I do plan on sending out official invites. Sometimes e-mails can be tricky, either a) as someone said, not everyone is extremely tech savvy and b) e-mails have a tendency to not go through, not work or get lost in the mix.

    Since I’m on such a tight budget, I’m trying my best to send the invites as one piece, or even just a simple postcard. Both my fiance and I are artsy folks so we plan on drawing a unique invite or save-the-dates.

    RSVPs can always be tricky and there are always the ones that just don’t respond at all. My plan is to take it to the phone lines and call anyone who hasn’t. I have a feeling there will be a few… 😉 Good luck!

    Post # 15
    232 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Personally, I love it and wish I could do it.  But I can see some confusion and issues and it would just be too much.  Not that it’s chump change, but for ease of the matter, $.44 for each of my 76 guests is worth it.  If I am going to cut costs, there are other areas (such as flowers), so for one day, I’m gonna eat it up.

    Post # 16
    259 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I’ve posted this a few times, but don’t mind sharing again.  We set up rsvps online and had a nice blurb about rsvping on the website written on the back of our invitation envelopes.  It said, “Please help us do our part to save the environment and RSVP on our website http://www.website.com.  Your reply is kindly requested before March 1, 2010.”  Our return address was printed on the flap of the envelope and the blurb was printed at the bottom. 

    We worked with a great etsy dealer though so we were able to order 80 envelopes like that and 20 without the blurb plus 20 traditional response cards.  We sent those to the older people and the more ta-do ladies who care about that kinda stuff.  Its worked out pretty well.  We haven’t gotten as many responses as I thought we’d have by now, but I think thats normal which ever way you go.


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