(Closed) Online RSVP etiquette

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1578 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Hey, I’m a MrsJR!  🙂  And I was actually a MissJR, too.

We did an online RSVP; we also made reply cards and only stamped the ones for people we suspected weren’t well versed with the Internet (grandma, and folks of her generation). 

We did receive quite a few back through the mail from other people who decided not to RSVP online, though, and that made me feel kind of bad that they’d used their own stamp.

Post # 3
6331 posts
Bee Keeper

We gave everyone RSVP postcards without postage because it also included info on how to rsvp on our website or through email. Surprisingly, the most popular method of RSVP has been the wedding website. You never know who will do the postcard RSVP though; one of my friends who’s my age RSVP’d by postcard. 

Post # 4
999 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Bumping because I have the same question!

Post # 5
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I would only include it for select people who don’t have computer access or older guests. We did online RSVPs to save money on invites and postage so it would’ve been counterproductive to include it

Post # 6
13646 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Replying  is the responsibility of your guests. It is most correct to reply according to the level of formality of the affair and invitation. So an online response might be best suited to a casual wedding, while a handwritten reply is still the most proper way to reply to a formal invitation. 

Strictly speaking, popular as they are, reply cards themselves are neither correct nor required. 

Post # 7
3080 posts
Sugar bee

Just included an information card, with the 3 entree choices, the wedding website address (for the RSVP function), and a notation to please direct late reponses and dietary requirements to an e-mail address. No envelopes, no stamps. Guests also saw the bride/groom, parents, grandmothers, etc. in person and gave their entree choice, or either texted, called or e-mailed one of the above.

Invited 250 and 248 responded by 6 days before the due date. A total success! (I think that the words “late response,” may have been an incentive, to get some people moving to RSVP. Linens, centerpieces, and chair cover orders were due weeks before the final dining numbers).

Post # 8
2 posts
  • Wedding: June 2015

Great question!

Post # 9
1172 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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futuremrsJR:  We had both mail in and web RSVP info on the RSVP card. We also included a stamped addressed envelope for everyone (except left off postage on our international guests because I couldn’t get canadian stamps and didn’t know the proper postage). It actually surprised me that some people went for the web RSVP who I thought would mail it in and vice versa. Glad I didn’t make presumptions!

Post # 10
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016


futuremrsJR:  We will be doing online RSVP’s via our website, when the time comes. We’re having a destination wedding, and don’t anticipate many responses.

As an alternative for those that aren’t so inclined to respond via our website, I am giving an option to RSVP via phone (text,call.) I’m sending out the actual invitation, and including a small blurb on a seperate smaller piece of paper that will provide our wedding website, how to RSVP on the site, and noting if they aren’t comfortable doing that, to please call or text their RSVP.

We’ll be sending out around 60 or so invites, and only expecting about 20 or so to respond. Seemed a waste of money to send a bunch of response cards we won’t get back.


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