(Closed) Online RSVP from someone not invited!!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

oh my, do they think that they are rsvping to the ceremony? or to the actual reception? if someone cant come can they be on the back up? thats so awkward

Post # 4
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2859 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I’d just be blunt and let them know that they weren’t invited.

Post # 5
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1037 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club

How did they rsvp??? Did they just leave a comment on your wedding website?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wow. Very weird. You are so far out from your date, it is strange people are doing this.

I think to some extent you can ignore this for now. How often do you see these people?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Your wedding is way far away.  Maybe they were just being funny or trying out the rsvp function??  I wouldn’t worry about it too much yet.  So much can change between now and when you send out invites.  If the rsvp is visible to other people, I would delete it and tell the RSVPer that it is way too early to respond.  Unless you really don’t know them at all, then just delete and forget about it.

Post # 8
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1106 posts
Bumble bee

Yeah I would be honest and just tell them they weren’t invited.. how weird.

Post # 9
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18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would probably disable the RSVP option until you get closer to the wedding.  It is too soon to have that info up I think, especially since you haven’t sent the invites out yet.

Post # 10
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

That is why I password protected my website.  I also made a big point of telling people not to share the website address with others, in case they weren’t invited.

Unfortunately I think you have to let those people know that you appreciate their support, but that you don’t have room to invite them.  It will be awkward, but if someone didn’t receive an invite FROM YOU they should expect rejection.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I dito deleting the RSVP function, atleast for now. Some sites make you have a code or something specific to RSVP. Definately something to look into if you plan on allowing guests to do so online.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I thought I had it bad by people sending me their addresses on fb (I wasn’t planning on inviting them).

Is there any way you can shut down the RSVP until after you send out the invites to avoid this. I haven’t made the RSVP feature available on website yet. I feel that if you don’t know them, tell the friends that you told about the website that someone that you don’t know has RSVPed. I don’t think it would be right to invite someone just because they have invited themselves.

 

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club

Ditto what everyone is saying…disable rsvp! And I would just ignore…because it is way too soon for invites anyway! When I first got engaged, it was really typical for people to be like, “ohhh yay you better invite me” and such. I just would shake my head and say “uh huh! Yeah…we have to figure out our guest list still.” In my case I found that usually the people who said things like that weren’t people who were used to going to weddings (college friends, etc.), and they wouldn’t even think about the fact that it is really expensive to invite lots of people…don’t sweat!

Post # 14
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792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Yeah, I would just ignore it as well… hopefully when the time gets closer and they don’t get an invite they will take the hint. That’s pretty presumptuous of them to just assume they’re invited anyway.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Goodness! I would make sure that specifics like the time and location aren’t visible to people who aren’t invited, just in case. If someone just RSVPs like that, I wouldn’t put it past the person to show up at your wedding!

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