(Closed) Online RSVP – tacky or ok?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: RSVP online only ok?
    Yes, I prefer to not mail something back : (54 votes)
    48 %
    I wouldn't think anything of it : (40 votes)
    35 %
    Tacky - send a response card! : (19 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 2
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    It’s 2016 and totally more convenient nowadays to do it so easily online. I wouldn’t find it tacky and I myself am sending out RSVPs with phone number and email options on the postcard – they can snail mail back if they want to, or choose one of those. This may sound a little tacky but I’m only stamping the postcards that I know for sure wouldn’t be answered via email – aka the older people. I feel like snail mail is a thing of the past and though I will mostly honor the tradition, I don’t expect all of my guests to.

    Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    alee88: we did both cards and online RSVPs. We had most people who sent back RSVPs include nice notes. When we respond to RSVPs, we always try to do online so the bride and groom have real time information. 

    It’s up to you though. We don’t side-eye. 

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I did it and it worked out fantastically. We also provided a number for people to call who didnt want to or have access to the internet. I also love the new age of bwing able to text people your responses to showers and other parties. I always RSVP right away to them ans never forget! It’s the best 

    Post # 5
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    859 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Couldn’t care less what people think about it lol I’m def doing online rsvp!

    Post # 6
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    484 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I’m doing online RSVP for 90% of the guest list, but sending pre-stamped RSVP cards for the people who don’t have computers or email (my grandma, for example).

    Post # 7
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    15 posts
    Newbee

    same as ABusyBride.  Online RSVP for most and prestamped cards for the older crowd.

    Post # 8
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    626 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

    I sent very traditional invites, but with a link to our RSVP site. It was the only option I gave. Our deadline date was last week, and every single person has replied – 75% within days. 

    For me, it’s a no-brainer with that kind of result. 

    Post # 9
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    489 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    We’re doing online RSVP too. I know some of my relatives might not think it’s formal/traditional enough but it just seems like such a waste to send out all the extra cards and postage. It’s also just so much more convenient for most people, and it’s nice to have the guest list tracked automatically!

    Post # 10
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    7903 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    We gave people options for RSVP, including online. An online rsvp is ok nowadays, but I’d still have an alternate option for people who aren’t so tech savvy. 

    Post # 11
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m not a big fan of them, mostly because I’d forget to go online and RSVP.  At least when I have a response card to send back, I can leave it on the counter as a reminder.  I’m not going to run to my computer to RSVP when I get your invitation, and honestly, it’ll likely slip my mind.

    It also sets the formality of an event for me.   A formal invitation would have a formal response set.  A casual event would be fine having an online RSVP.  

    Post # 12
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    1800 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    More convenient and environmentally friendly!! I like it. However, if I asked my nan to RSVP like that I am sure she would have a minor freak out so I would have an alternative for her!

    Post # 13
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    223 posts
    Helper bee

    Just for formality sake, I’d have a paper RSVP. However, this day and age several people might choose to RSVP via text, FB message, or on the wedding website. 

    Because of that, I will have an RSVP section on my website, but will also send formal RSVPs with the invitation, so that the guests will have the option.

    Post # 14
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    4037 posts
    Honey bee

    My daughters had very formal invitations, black-tie weddings, and online responses. We totally didn’t care. Daughter #1 invited 250 and had responses from 248 guests, 10 days before the due date. Her grandmother – now 90 – would have been insulted if someone sent her a response card and hinted that she couldn’t respond online; she’s on the internet every day.

    Post # 15
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    969 posts
    Busy bee

    We did an online RSVP through our wedding website via The Knot (along with the options to contact us in any other way they saw fit/was easiest for them). It was very handy as the website kept track of all the RSVPs for us in one place and we could edit the list as needed. A few people didn’t quite understand how to RSVP online (even though the directions on how to do it were clearly written out on our website, and included an example) or didn’t have internet access (older family members), so we got some phone calls or word-of-mouth RSVPs as well, which was totally fine.

    Other than the handful of people who couldn’t figure out online RSVPing, it worked really well and I’m happy we didn’t waste the time and money on traditional RSVP cards. And we didn’t hear one word of disgust about it and my family is rather traditional, too. 😛 So, yeah, I’d definitely recommend it! 🙂

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