(Closed) Online RSVPs?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Honey bee

My 1st daughter to marry used online RSVPs, set-up on her wedding website. 248 of 250 guests responded, 10 days before the due date, including her grandmother (then 88), who uses the internet every day.

With my 2nd daughter, she invited around half the number of guests, so just asked for a regular e-mail. Guests who didn’t use the internet seemed to always know someone who does, or talked to the couple, a parent or grandmother, on a fairly regular basis.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Some people love online RSVPs, some people hate them.

I happen to forget about online RSVPs.  With the response card, I can check off whether I’m attending and mail it back promptly.  With an online RSVP, I have to remember to take the card to whenever I’m on a computer and remember to do it.  

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I’m also using online RSVPs after seeing easy it was for friends and how little follow up they had to do compared to my friends who sent paper RSVPs. I usually see a separate RSVP card that provides the website address. You could add a phone number easily. I’ve also seen it as the last line of the invite, where sometimes something generic like “dinner and dancing to follow” is usually states. Instead, it might say “To RSVP and for more information, please visit our wedding website at (insert web address) or call (insert number).”

I personally like having it on a separate cars but depends on formality of the event and your own personal preference. 

Post # 6
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Newbee

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SomethingBlue1009:  We used online RSVPs through anRSVP.com. On that site you can add your meal question when the guests RSVP, and list the options for them to pick from. Their meal choice gets sent to you with their response.

Overall, RSVPing online was not a problem for our guests, and we did not provide a phone number on the RSVP card. There were a few who did not use the website, but those people responded in person, email, or called.

We had to track down several RSVPs, but I don’t think those people would not have responded with traditional mailed cards anyway.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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SomethingBlue1009:  I created a wedding website and had an online RSVP on there. It worked Ok… I think it’s still a little too ‘new age’ for some of my family members, so I gave lots of time between RSVP deadline and when I actually needed to know so I could hunt down the people who didn’t respond, ahha. It was annoying, but it didn’t take that long.

It seems to be more and more popular now! Thank god! It saves sooooo much in postage, and if people aren’t going to bother to call/text better believe those are the same people who won’t bother to fill out and send an RSVP back to you.

The last few weddings we’ve been invited too have had phone/e-mail RSVPs. You can create a cute ‘wedding’ e-mail for guests to respond to.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I printed a link to my website on my information card that went out with my invitations. We included paper rsvp cards for some of our older relatives, maybe 20. Almost all of my guests rsvped online, even some with the paper rsvp card. We used rsvpify. It had an option to add in meal choices and you could also put all of the names for each invitation together so people couldn’t rsvp for more people than you invited. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

We did RSVP cards with tick boxes and the link to the online one on there. 

Most people we see regularly just ticked the card and handed it to us when they next saw us; I then put it into the online rsvp to keep them together. 

People from a little further afield had no problem doing it online, including older people. The invites had our address on too so a couple of people sent them back by post with a little card or note. 

I loved having the website though so we could subtly let people find info about the venue, hotel rooms and our gift registry without rubbing it in their face. 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

*We could also keep the invites uncluttered as most info was online. I loved that. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

Not sure about other websites- but the knot has a feature to add meal options to the rsvp.

We are using the knot and I also provided a phone number for those who are not comfortable using the online site.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I know the Knot has a built in RSVP section so you can just have it attached to your website. 

Almost all the weddings i have been invited to in the last 2 years had online RSVPs.  I prefer it attached to a website so you can just fill out the form and send. One couple had you email them and i didn’t like that, super informal and i didn’t like having to send an email explaining the decline.  So i would say add the website for the RSVP on the invite. If they have issues you can add an email to the website that they can contact you through. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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JiminyCricket:  have to agree with this. I often forget about online RSVP, i actually dont remember if i responded to one i have in October…i think i did. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’m also doing online RSVPs, since half of our guests are abroad and postage will be complicated (we’re sending invitations by post, but will follow up with an e-mail so guests can just click a link). Basically I’m just using a Google form that’s embedded into my website (all free).

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We did online RSVPs and it worked great. I think we used Wedding Window or something similar for our wedding website, and you can easily (and cheaply) register the domain to make it something easy to remember (like your names). We didn’t really have to chase anyone when it came down to it, and the handful of older relatives who were uncomfortable with the internet were able to find plenty of ways to communicate their responses to us. Those kinds of sites also let you set up questions like menu choices, song suggestions, etc., so it should be no trouble to get the information your caterer needs. 

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