Post # 1
Stamps are too expensive!
Our guest list is currently at 348 and i am thinking we can save quite a bit of money if we use our websites RSVP feature to have people account for themselves there rather than having our guests drop an envelope in the mail and account for guests that way – what has your experience been with online RSVP’s if that was the way you went? Or, if you were thinking online RSVP’s and chose to go with the more traditional way – why?
Feedback is MUCH appreciated as I have to order these invites this week!
Also, if I choose to do the online route – how do i word it in the invitation?
Post # 3
I am going to have our guests mail their invites back. It seems more personal that way. I don’t really care for online RSVPs at all. If you want to use the online RSVPs, then just include a little blurb with the website URL asking your guests to RSVP that way. Are you including an RSVP card with your invites? That would make a difference with the wording. Either way, you should not include the information about RSVPing directly on the invite, you should have a separate card. Unless, your wedding is very informal. Mailed back RSVPs are also more formal.
Post # 4
I think mailing a paper invitation = mailed RSVPs. It just seems awkward that you have to type in the website. Plus, if you’re informal enough to RSVP online, why not just have the invitation online? You can use postcard RSVPs to save money. We did use paperlesspost for our rehearsal dinner and other event invitations. It looks pretty and it keeps track of people who are coming, which is great. Keeping track of paper RSVPs was annoying.
Post # 5
I think an online RSVP is practical and efficient and gets the guests to your website to see additional information.
I have an online RSVP so I may be biased but it is working quite well. We have about 80% of our responses in and we are a week out from the deadline. Only a few older family members complained that they needed to go online and called in their RSVP to my mom.
Post # 6
I’m doing mail-in invites because half of the guest list cannot be relied on for anything that has to do with technology. It will be more work for me to create a website, show them how to use it, etc. than just use mail-in invites for them to drop in the mail.
Another option is using RSVP postcards. It’s cheaper than the envelope kind.
Post # 7
I am doing mail-it-in because a lot of relatives are not internet savvy. In addition, my grandparents don’t even have a computer! I think it would be challenging to some of them and those that are wary would just continuously put it off.
Post # 8
you could do both, have mail in cards plus an online option, then guests can chose how they feel most comfortable rsvping…
Post # 9
@Ei: I thought about that! But then I am faced with the dillema of putting postage on 165 respond envelopes that maybe wont come back… You know what I mean? Also, do you know what the appropriate time is to have a deadline for an RSVP?
Post # 10
Thanks for all of your feedback everybody! So, what I am gathering is you should do mail-it-in if guests are not tech savvy, right?
We dont have any grandparents, and the only person I can think of that is not tech savvy on the guest list is my future mother in law who we already know will be there. I was thinking about putting a phone number on the response card for people who dont feel comfortable doing it online for whatever reason – is that tacky, though?
Post # 11
@CASmallwood: 348! wowza! just out of curiosity, which venue are you using in santa monica?
Post # 12
I’m doing postcard RSVPs – just about half the cost for postage vs traditional with an envelope, and the postcards are cheaper to purchase than the RSVPs that come with my invites.
I do like the idea of a hard copy RSVP, but that’s just the traditionalist in me.
Post # 13
@Mrs. Meowerson: Yeah- wowza is right! We are getting married in the small town of Visalia, CA – our parents homes are down the street from each other. The venue is in the middle of an orange grove.