Post # 1
I really thought the idea of an online wedding website to announce, invite, RSVP and give details in regards to our October beach wedding was a great idea. I always have so many issues with the mail and wanted to avoid having to mail anymore than I had to. To be honsest, I did not want to send ivites at all execpt to those who do not go online. Well the whole process seems to have been a big waste of time. Most people did not even go to the website — I keep getting calls about transportation and accomodations even thought its all on the website. The response date was July 20 and with 240 people invited we only have 37 accepted and 62 declined. That still leaves 141 responces MIA. Has anyone else done online RSVPs? How successful was your responce?
Post # 3
I’m not going this route but I was invited to a wedding where the RSVP was requested online and boy was THAT a nightmare. First of all, I got confused myself when I first saw the invite, I assumed there was no need to RSVP, it gave the wedding website link but it didn’t ask that you go online to RSVP. A few weeks later after looking at the invite on my fridge curiosity got the best of me and I decided to log onto the wedding website, and thats when I saw that it was an online RSVP. Now the only reason I even looked was b/c I was curious. And I know some of the older guests didn’t even have a computer. Depending on who the majority of your guests are maybe it was too new of a concept to try out with?? For the wedding I was invited to it was…hopefully that gives a little insight.
Post # 4
We didn’t do online RSVPs but I am really annoyed about how many people could even mail their pre-paid postcard RSVP back to me. We sent out about 70 invitations and only got about 35 RSVPs back. It was really a pain to track everyone down. Why is it soooo hard to put your name on a postcard and put it in the mail? Lazy, lazy guests.
Post # 5
Actually my invite said very little it read like this: Ms. Librarian and Mr. Geek fell in love and will be married October 10, 2010 nags head, NC for details and to RSVP please visit our wedding website http://www.weddingwire.com/librarianandgeek we also included a second smaller card with the RSVP date and the password for the site (since we decided to protect it after we printed the invites.)
I really thought it was simple and clear — and actually the ones that I expected to have trouble (older aunts and uncles ) were the first to repsond, added a note and had no problem with it. I did the online to save money and time but it looks like I have many nights of phone calls ahead of me.
Post # 6
We sent out invitations with an online rsvp and a phone #. We expressly asked them to rsvp yes OR no either way. We invited about 130 and only had to track down about 10… not bad.
Also… not to be a brat, but with an October 10th wedding, isn’t July 20th kind of soon for an rsvp date? Maybe a lot of people just are not sure yet, since 3 months away is a long time!
I am having an August 21st wedding and our rsvp date was July 9th, which was still 2 weeks sooner than the venue needed, and plenty of time to track down people.
Post # 7
I feel your pain! Our main invite RSVPs are paper, but we have an online RSVP for the Day After Brunch…Out of 100 invitations and 180 guests invited, only 1 friend and my father have RSVPed online in the month since our invitations were sent and of the paper RSVPs, only 5 have made their way back to our door- and 2 of those were hand delivered by the people invited! WTF?! There is a serious problem with being rude and lax in our society! Boooo!
Post # 8
@ Schatzie821 We are having a destination wedding — i could not afford to do both save the dates and invites so we split the difference time wise and sent out the invtes early — all invtes were maled by june 1st. I think I gave enough time — besies the hotel block is only good untill August 1st. Also — we must order tables chairs etc and I was told I had to get the ordes in by mid august to assure avaiiblity — I cant very well order these things with out a head count. — Geez I wish I could have afforded to just hire some one to do it all. I am playng wedding contractor.
Post # 9
thank god i didnt go that route. I put RSVP’s to get mailed but i also included postage 🙂
Post # 10
We are in the process of doing an online RSVP and so far it is going well. We mailed out an invite and Reseption card/RSVP. I really had trouble with wording at first but ended up with a really straight forward message, “RSVP and select your meal preference on our website, (insert address here)” I think letting people know they get to pick what they are eating and not including the choices on the card really motivates people to sign on. I only fear the Nos are choosing to not RSVP at all. Thus far we have sent out about 70 invitations (at least 10 went to people we know will not be able to attend due to travel) and have 30 people who RSVP’d yes and 0 nos with 20 days left before the deadline. As of right now, we’re getting about one response per day and I am really happy we went the online route. We also did not include the password on the invitation, so everyone has to request it which lets me know who is looking at the website as well 😉 This was simply an oversight on my part and I would highly sugggest including the password to avoid that step.
Post # 11
Maybe you could send out a “Don’t forget to RSVP online” postcard?