(Closed) Online vs Mail-in RSVPs

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  • Post # 2
    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2017 - Edson Keith Mansion

    We did online RSVPs only. It was super easy; we had a great response rate. Even my grandparents RSVPed through the website without any issues. I don’t think that you need to do both. If you have a guest that you think may have trouble with it, I would just call them.

    Post # 3
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    It depends on how formal the wedding is for me. Personally I wouldn’t do online RSVPs for any wedding but if the occasion isn’t as formal it might not be a bad idea. 

    Older people do not appreciate online RSVPs I find. A cousin got married with online RSVPs and most of the older generation in my family found it incredibly tacky and complained a bunch.

    i think it really depends on your audience. 

    Post # 4
    2497 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    We decided on doing regular RSVP cards + pre-stamped envelopes, but then on our details card we will be adding a blurb about being able to RSVP online also. That way they have 2 options.

    Post # 7
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

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    everythingpink :  

    if you’re going very formal I would err on the side of caution and go the prestamped RSVP route. There’s nothing I myself hate more than getting and invitation with an RSVP that’s not stamped. If you also have a lot of babyboomers attending I find the majority of that generation hates online RSVPs. 

    Post # 8
    4036 posts
    Honey bee

    My daughter had a very formal, evening wedding and requested online RSVPs. She heard from all but one couple (248 of 250 guests)  10 days before the due date. She was all about not wasting paper/postage- it wasn’t a question of saving/tight budget. I don’t know if there were complaints?; I do know that guests are still complimenting us about how fabulous the wedding was (guest hosting, entertainment, etc.), 4 years later.

    In the last 4 years we’ve been invited to 10 weddings. Most of them requested online responses. The least formal/lowest hosting budget weddings were the ones who sent us the mail-back cards, not e-mail responses.   

    Post # 9
    1601 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    My wedding wasn’t super formal. We didn’t have any mail in  rsvps. If you do the website route, make sure to also include a phone number so the less tech savvy people can call in their rsvp. 

    I had a website, email and phone number and got zero complaints. 

    Post # 10
    555 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada

    We are having a formal wedding but are doing online only. Its been 2 weeks since we mailed invites and 50% have already said yes using the website so I’d say its working.

    Post # 11
    7650 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    everythingpink :  if you are avoiding online RSVPs to avoid complaints from the older generation than a pre-stamped envelope is definitely a must or you’ll just end up receiving complaints over that.

    For a black tie formal wedding I would definitely just stick to mail in RSVPs.

    Post # 12
    14048 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Personally, I don’t like the online RSVPs.  When I open your invitation, I’m probably not at my computer, and I’ll put it aside fully intending to RSVP at some point, but it’s 50/50 if I actually remember at a convenient time.  With a paper invitation, I have the card right there to fill out and drop in the mail.  But I’m old-fashioned. 

    Post # 13
    1590 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    I’m planning to go 50/50. I’m printing up little cards directing people to our online RSVP with vistaprint. Technically they are business cards that I redesigned. They’re really inexpensive. These will go in the invitations of our younger guests (mine and my fiancé’s friends mostly). Our older guests (family, friends of our parents) are going to get the traditional stamped RSVP cards and envelopes. It’s actually going to save a few hundred dollars in paper and postage this way. I know for sure some of my relatives would be horrified by an online RSVP so I’m just avoiding it with them. I think in general, they’re a great idea: inexpensive, convenient and environmentally friendly!

    Post # 14
    6098 posts
    Bee Keeper

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    everythingpink :  I think online is easier but I couldn’t get anyone to go on our website, so we did mail in. I also put that they could message either me or my Fiance now husband instead if preferred.

    Post # 15
    379 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    We did both. I think paper RSVPs are much more formal and help set the tone for the wedding. But I think it’s ok to give people the option of RSVPing online because we’ve all been in the position where you forgot and need rsvp fast at the last minute. I’d say about 70% of our responses have been with card and 30% online.

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