Post # 1
So I’m sending out my invitations in a couple of weeks and Im torn on what kind of RSVP to have. Should I have my guest RSVP online or use the old school mail in envelopes? I have used the online format before which I thought was easy and quick. But I have older family members who I know will will have a difficult time using our website. Maybe I can do both??
How did you do your RSVPs? What do you think is easier?
Post # 2
- Wedding: February 2017 - Edson Keith Mansion
We did online RSVPs only. It was super easy; we had a great response rate. Even my grandparents RSVPed through the website without any issues. I don’t think that you need to do both. If you have a guest that you think may have trouble with it, I would just call them.
Post # 3
It depends on how formal the wedding is for me. Personally I wouldn’t do online RSVPs for any wedding but if the occasion isn’t as formal it might not be a bad idea.
Older people do not appreciate online RSVPs I find. A cousin got married with online RSVPs and most of the older generation in my family found it incredibly tacky and complained a bunch.
i think it really depends on your audience.
Post # 4
We decided on doing regular RSVP cards + pre-stamped envelopes, but then on our details card we will be adding a blurb about being able to RSVP online also. That way they have 2 options.
Post # 5
Amy Turner :
Thanks! that is what I was thinking.
Post # 6
This is what I am afraid of. Our wedding is black tie optional and very formal. So is pre-stamped a “must”?
Post # 7
if you’re going very formal I would err on the side of caution and go the prestamped RSVP route. There’s nothing I myself hate more than getting and invitation with an RSVP that’s not stamped. If you also have a lot of babyboomers attending I find the majority of that generation hates online RSVPs.
Post # 8
My daughter had a very formal, evening wedding and requested online RSVPs. She heard from all but one couple (248 of 250 guests) 10 days before the due date. She was all about not wasting paper/postage- it wasn’t a question of saving/tight budget. I don’t know if there were complaints?; I do know that guests are still complimenting us about how fabulous the wedding was (guest hosting, entertainment, etc.), 4 years later.
In the last 4 years we’ve been invited to 10 weddings. Most of them requested online responses. The least formal/lowest hosting budget weddings were the ones who sent us the mail-back cards, not e-mail responses.
Post # 9
My wedding wasn’t super formal. We didn’t have any mail in rsvps. If you do the website route, make sure to also include a phone number so the less tech savvy people can call in their rsvp.
I had a website, email and phone number and got zero complaints.
Post # 10
- Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada
We are having a formal wedding but are doing online only. Its been 2 weeks since we mailed invites and 50% have already said yes using the website so I’d say its working.
Post # 11
if you are avoiding online RSVPs to avoid complaints from the older generation than a pre-stamped envelope is definitely a must or you’ll just end up receiving complaints over that.
For a black tie formal wedding I would definitely just stick to mail in RSVPs.
Post # 12
Personally, I don’t like the online RSVPs. When I open your invitation, I’m probably not at my computer, and I’ll put it aside fully intending to RSVP at some point, but it’s 50/50 if I actually remember at a convenient time. With a paper invitation, I have the card right there to fill out and drop in the mail. But I’m old-fashioned.
Post # 13
I’m planning to go 50/50. I’m printing up little cards directing people to our online RSVP with vistaprint. Technically they are business cards that I redesigned. They’re really inexpensive. These will go in the invitations of our younger guests (mine and my fiancé’s friends mostly). Our older guests (family, friends of our parents) are going to get the traditional stamped RSVP cards and envelopes. It’s actually going to save a few hundred dollars in paper and postage this way. I know for sure some of my relatives would be horrified by an online RSVP so I’m just avoiding it with them. I think in general, they’re a great idea: inexpensive, convenient and environmentally friendly!
Post # 14
I think online is easier but I couldn’t get anyone to go on our website, so we did mail in. I also put that they could message either me or my Fiance now husband instead if preferred.
Post # 15
We did both. I think paper RSVPs are much more formal and help set the tone for the wedding. But I think it’s ok to give people the option of RSVPing online because we’ve all been in the position where you forgot and need rsvp fast at the last minute. I’d say about 70% of our responses have been with card and 30% online.