- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Hello my fellow Bees!
I’m pretty new here, so if I posted this in the wrong place I am sorry in advance.
My fiance and I are having a pretty intimate wedding with only about 30 – 35 people including ourselves.
Out of all of our guests only about 15 are close friends, the rest is our family. All but less than 5 of the friends we invited live quite far away from us. We live in New England and most of our guests are coming from CA, TX & NY.
As a lot of them have children and such, I thought it would be best to send out my invites ASAP so they went out late January. I figured this gives everyone enough time. I believe my RSVP date is early/mid July (we are getting married on August 17th).
The only RSVPs I’ve received back are from my Mother-In-Law, my fiance’s brother & wife, and another one of his brothers. I’d bet my life that all our family is attending from both NY & CA, everyone has said they are and we don’t have any family issues where we could forsee anyone not coming.
My concern is that none of our actual friends have said anything about attending, except for one who lives in TX. (To be fair another friend from out-of-state said she was coming too, but she can be a bit flakey and has two kids so I’m not really counting her as “for sure” until I hear of travel plans & childcare arrangements.)
The only decline we received (via Facebook lol) is one of my fiance’s friends and his live-in gf, which my fiance expected.(We are pretty sure due to financial reasons, so we weren’t offended.)
My thought is that if was invited to a friends wedding that is happening in August and is out-of-state (or for our CA guests, on the other side of the county), I would know by now. Is this just me?
I just wanted to know if you all think I’m worrying too much, or if I should maybe try to reach out to them and ask what their plans are? Is it normal to be unsure of your travel plans when the wedding is only 3 months away?
This is hard for me because I’ve put a lot of time and energy into planning a very special wedding and I would be hurt if none of our friends were there. (Not to mention that we have paid for the entire wedding ourselves, and I would have been fine with a civil ceremony and an extravagant honeymoon instead if I knew it would just be family; nothing against them!)