Post # 16
psyche1978 : she is def a narc. absolutely everything is about her. but yes, we have started talking lately about how we think she may be a little on the spectrum or something because she really is super socially awkward and judgemental and rigid.
Post # 17
alfalfasprout10518 : girl I can relate. I have a fmil who left me oit of a family vacation to visit her other son in california and invited my fiance (who i live with) and told him I wasnt invited because im not family. So in other words my fmil also has a very specific and narrow minded view of family. I thought literally moving 13 hours away to move in with my fiance being engaged and being together for 7 years made me family and its not like his family doesnt know me well. We used to go to his mom’s house every week for dinner when we both lived near our families. But to me family isnt necessarily just blood but who has been loyal to you.
Post # 18
That is the TOTAL opposite of my family. My parents called their in-laws ‘mum and dad’ from the day they got married, and are 100000% treated like the family that they are. My fiance was treated just like a son/grandparent by my family after a couple of years (but was warmly welcomed and invited to every family gathering from day 1). However my finace’s family are completely disinterested in me. I’ve never met any of them except his parents and brother. I met one of his grandfathers once but he wasn’t interested in even talking to me. Families are weird!
Post # 19
That sound pretty crap to deal with but at least you know it’s not personal and she’s like that with all in laws. I would just be concerned if you guys have kids, will she be telling your child that their mum isn’t family, or excluding you from things?
Post # 20
Be on guard if you guys choose to have children together. You will most likely find your son left out of many “family” event in the future. alfalfasprout10518 :