Post # 1
I am an old returning user, will not be posting after this thread
If you are waiting for the proposal, DO NOT ask bees on this forum
I asked them for a piece of advice, and they told me just dump him – you’ve been with him for 4 years (THEY GIVE THIS ADIVE TO ANY POSTER WITH THE SAME QUESTION)
Spoiler alert: My husband proposed to me on our 5th anniversary (I was still in my 20s but doesn’t matter)
I browsed the forum for a bit, looked at the photos
Most bees on this forum are either old and bitter (s,,,,, e,,,,,,,,), you can tell when they take photos of their rings (hands) and dresses or severly emmm…. out of shape marrying someone alike…
In their case yes they can’t wait, they also think that time is running out or they come from the village where people marry after 1-2 years of dating
If you are independent, fit woman who respects herself and loves her SO, do not ask these emmm ladies for any advice
You will regret it
Just browse the photos sections and see who you are asking lol
Post # 3
Flounce posts are against TOS.
Also you’re making it way too obvious you’re trolling. The best T posts are filled with nuance and the stories are drawn out with plot twists in the updates. You put it all out there too quickly.
I must say I’m not impressed
Post # 4
This may the best thread I’ve post in a long time!
Post # 5
Ah, yes–the jealous and bitter comment. How original!
Post # 6
So relieved you waited it out! You got rewarded by getting a ring on your youthful, fit hand! ::Clutches at pearls with old, out of shape hand
Post # 7
Have a wonderful marriage. And yes I’m old, with wrinkled paws. But severely out of shape? I’m 118 lbs and look pretty good.
Post # 8
LOL to this post.
In your younger 20s and not financially independent, still in school, or not yet established or secure is one thing. But five years just “because” and no indication of a commitment is another.
Leaving is good advice in that case IMO, but not because there’s no chance that a proposal will ever happen. Aside from the risk of wasting years, my concern would be that a heel dragging, indecisive man who does not know his own mind and is unable to communicate is likely to have other equally undesirable traits or these same traits in other circumstances.
My advice is to date a man who makes it obvious that he is just as excited and anxious for a future with you as you are with him.
Post # 9
This was hilarious!! Thanks for the laugh on an otherwise boring Friday night, OP!
Post # 10
Oh, man. I really needed that laugh.
Post # 11
Bye bitch, don’t let the door hit you in the ass. Your husband has my sympathies.
Post # 13
So your husband dragged the proposal on for another year before you finally forced it out of him. Well done, congrats and thanks for the update.
By The Way, fellow jealous, bitter old bags, my wrinkly old hand is in my profile pic if anyone wants to check out my gnarled elederly fingers.
Post # 14
If someone asks for advice, you should respect the wisdom and experience that accompanies the odd wrinkle. Someone’s age or physical stats doesn’t dictate the worthiness of their voice.. Someone being old or out of shape doesn’t mean that the people they paired up with are people they settled on. I am neither of those things but I wouldn’t blow off the opinion of anyone else based on something so shallow.
To be fair, most of the advice I’ve seen on those posts relates to partners who say something will happen by X time and then, continuously, for many years make excuses as to why it’s not happening. Sometimes it’s really obvious when someone is just being strung along.
Anyway, congratulations on your marriage
Post # 15
So you came here for advice, which implies you were concerned about when your now husband would propose. You didn’t like the advice stuck it out and it worked out for you, so now you think that will work in lots of situations, talk about youth and inexperience.