(Closed) Only having my 2 best girls stand up with me. What to call them?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Call them...
    Maid & Matron of Honour : (45 votes)
    59 %
    Bridesmaids : (26 votes)
    34 %
    Other. Post your suggestions! : (5 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    How about “Ladies in waiting” ??

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I would say both are Maid of Honor. I know a lot of women who would abhor being called “Matron” even if they are married. It also makes it sound like they have different titles and you want them to sound equal, I’m assuming.

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

    Best girls? Best women? Best ladies? Best friends? Why not call it like it is? This may be a double post, but I think the Maid/Matron of Honor title really only makes sense when you’ve got a bunch of girls and need to designate one as a point person for shower/bachelorette/etc.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Well, one of these women is going to end up honored above the other. Only one of them can walk in immediately before you and leave immediately after. Only one of them can stand closer to you and hold your bouquet when you need to hand it off. I’d just bite the bullet and make on of them MoH and the other Bridesmaid or Best Man. If you all are that close and are also mature, there won’t be hard feelings.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Honor attendants

     

    I hasd my long married younger sister as my honor attendant, hate maid/matron

     

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @MissBettsy:  My mom was 48 at her friend’s wedding and was EXTREMELY upset that she was called “Matron” of honor as she does not feel matronly at all. And the fact that the little 20 year old was called maid of honor did not help her feel better!

    Post # 13
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Maids of honour – nobody likes to be a matron!

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I had my two married sisters as attendants and called them each Matron of Honor… hmm, have to see if they hated that title? ๐Ÿ™‚ Besides being in the program, I never really referred to them that way!

    Post # 15
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @LaughLines:  hahaha I meant it light-heartedly reallY! I really don’t know if you change it based on marital status etc. . . and one is older, but I figure if see them as the same role, call them both the same. I would have head scratchers at my wedding wondering what the difference is! 

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee

    Although it’s true that they can’t both do exactly the same things, I don’t agree with MrsS…’s point that one of them is going to end up being “more honored” than the other.

    – You could have them walk in with each other, right before you (and meet up with the groomsmen down at the end of the aisle). Or you could have one go right before you on the way in, and the other go right after you on the way out.

    – One of them can hold your bouquet while the other one arranges your veil, etc. Or maybe you designate one of them as the bouquet holder and the other one is the official witness who signs the marriage license, etc.

    FWIW my sisters were maid and matron of honor.

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