Post # 1
Well, the Maid/Matron of Honor I was going to not have, i kept and am now highly regretting the decisions…so i REALLY need help.
She cheated on my soon to be cousin-in-law who is very close with my man 🙂 . Not the before she left to meet her dad cheat either(not quite sure if i already posted on that). This is the while they were stil together cheat, she then tried to blame it on one of my bridesmaids. Not only has that happened but ofcourse she had gone around telling everyone in church things that weren’t true about this bridesmaid.
I’m really in a time crunch, and i need some one i can truly trust, but. i don’t have many options. What should i do?? I could promote said bridesmaid to Maid/Matron of Honor, but, who will fill that missing Bridesmaid or Best Man spot?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t even BOTHER to fill the spot!! I would leave the spot EMPTY to show how much you support your FCIL!!
Or I would just pick someone who fits the dress. Anyone is better than keeping her as your Maid/Matron of Honor. (And what kind of message would that send your BM??)
Post # 4
You can "promote" a bridesmaid and not fill the spot. You don’t have to have even numbers, but I know how it can feel in small community when everyone knows what’s going on. I personally would have a hard time having a cheater stand up for me at my wedding, but you could have the former Maid/Matron of Honor drop down to bridesmaid.
If you’re already considering not having her be your Maid/Matron of Honor you should let her go.
Post # 5
It sounds like a lot of drama you don’t need. And she’s making it difficult for you by involving this other friend who is also a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Without knowing the whole reality of the situation, I would say it might be best to let this Maid/Matron of Honor go. I don’t think usually it’s a good idea to get so involved in other people’s business, but this just seems like too much… yucky kharma. I also wouldn’t stress too much about finding another person to fill in. Just let it be as having fewer girls than guys.
Post # 6
Thanks so much girls.
And you’re right this is too much drama, that shouldn’t have even happened. I’ll talk to her wednesday after church i guess. or before. and just having two would probably be best.