Only invited to ceremony but not reception?! Really?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 76
976 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I honestly had no problem with the situation until you got to the *registry info included on the invitation*. Asking for $500 gifts from people not invited to the reception is really a new low.

But I actually have received a ceremony-only invite before (via Facebook, no less), and attended happily. There was space in the church and it was nice to see my friend get married. It was just a couple of hours out of my day (I wouldn’t have attended if it were 2h away, but I’d still prefer to be invited than not), I caught up with some other high school friends before and after, I didn’t give a gift. No harm, no foul, and I got to witness an important moment in their lives.

Post # 78
3180 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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trackwise :  tacky as fuck! These greedy, selfish people are really showing everyone who they are… I would *not* drive 2 hours to attend, would only send an empty congrat card; definitively no gift!

Post # 79
982 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Wow. They know exactly what they’re doing, exactly how rude they’re being, and yet they still don’t seem to care. The gall to include registry information on a ceremony-only invite… And then to say they don’t expect gifts. Ha! What a joke.

I would not mince words, to be honest. I’d tell the groom that I thought what they were doing was very rude and seemed like they were just trying to get gifts without actually hosting everyone. I would point out the registry on the invite if he tries to say they don’t expect gifts. And if he tries to pull that “come celebrate with us” bullsh*t again, I would tell him that watching spending all the time to travel there, see them get married, and watch them ride off to go to a reception you’re not invited to, is NOT a celebration. And to be honest, with the way he is handling the backlash of all this, I would seriously reconsider my friendship with him. I don’t have time for rude, greedy, selfish people.

Post # 82
288 posts
Helper bee

I know a person who invited some of her friends to ceremony and reception and others only to the ceremony. She was advising me to do the same in my wedding. I don’t agree with it at all. Either invite people to both or none. 

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