Post # 1
We are considering only inviting children who are in the wedding party to our wedding. This would include three kids….two of my nieces one will be 14 and the other will have just turned one, and a groomsmen’s son..who will be 3 when we get married.
My two nieces are my sisters children. The only kids that would excluded would be my step- nefews, and step-nieces, and a few friends kids.
I am worried that my step-siblings will be upset that my sisters children were invited but not their own. To clarify things I am obivously closer with my sister and her kids and see them alot more often than I see the others about once or twice a year.
I am hoping they will be understanding. Would you consider this to be rude?
Post # 3
I have children and wouldn’t be offended because you have a clear line (children in wedding party are invited, others are not). I think it only becomes rude when you have some sort of weird line.
The only problem will be with out of town guests likely not wanting their children to be with sitters they don’t know, so you may have some declines.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t be offended, if the only kids there were the one’s in the wedding. I’d stick to that, with no exceptions otherwise you’re opening it up for discussion.
Post # 5
I did this and no one seemed to care.
Post # 6
We are doing this as well. My 10 year old niece is a Junior Bridesmaid and the only kid who will be at the wedding.
The only thing I’m still trying to figure out is if, since she’s in my wedding party, do I allow her a +1 to bring her best friend.
If we opened it up to other kids it’s an extra 30 people and we’re already within 5 of our max of 200 for the venue.
Post # 7
@FutureMrsLadolcetta: I don’t think children should be offered a +1 in any circumstance.
Post # 8
@Pumpkin_Bee: Sorry you feel that way, but my niece is the only exception I’d consider making.
The question I was asking was more about the potential repurcussions of having only 1 child at the wedding and allowing said child to have a guest while not allowing any others.