Post # 1
That sounds complicated. Let me explain.
I’ve known a friend, let’s call her E, for 19 years (My GOD I’m getting old). I’m inviting her and her husband to my wedding. I’ve known them both for 19 years (we met in the 6th grade). I’m also inviting her mom and her older sister. They are both married.
So when I asked both E’s mom and sister for their names and addresses, they each gave me their names only and not their spouse’s name. I am cordial to their husbands. I always speak when I see them, but that’s about it. I don’t know them that well. I’ve known E, E’s husband, mom and sister for a large part of my life.
Should I assume that they will come together as a family (E, E’s husband, mom, and sister) and not bring the other husbands? E and E’s sister have 3 young boys and more than likely, I can see them staying with their grandfather or something (adult only wedding).
At present, I’m reserving one seat for them. Should I add another?
Post # 3
@TaurianDoll: Social units must always be invited together.
Post # 4
I see no harm in asking for clarification since they only gave their names. What would they say “oh no, she’s being courteous and asking our preference?”
Post # 5
@TaurianDoll: Their spouses should be invited as well.
Think about it – if your future husband had a good friend who you had a casual relationship with/only knew through him, would you be upset if he was invited without you?
Post # 6
my parents went to a lot of weddings alone. my mom knowing the bride really well and my dad just saying hi in passing. my dad knowing the groom and going to the ceremony and part of the reception.
my parents can breathe without each other and they raised me to be able to do the same so asking me that question isn’t a great indicator.
not to get snippy but that’s a pet peeve of mine but that’s for another board and another topic.
thanks for the advice. i fixed the invite, and the list to include them. it was weighing on me so i knew i had to do something about it.
Post # 7
@LittleCricket: haha! good point 🙂
i think i would actually be super surprised if their husbands came. all of these ladies know my dad but my mom and i attended all of their weddings and a few baby showers without him. but it doesn’t hurt to invite them.