(Closed) Only matron of honor and no bm?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1247 posts
Bumble bee

@Washingtonian:  I haven’t seen it with my eyes yet, but I would totally do it!

Post # 4
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d just have the one! Less drama!

Post # 5
397 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I had just my best friend and my husband had his brother…that was it. It was nice and simple. I’d definitely do it again!

Post # 6
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Nothing wrong with one…

As noted by the other Bees… Less Drama & Expense

You really have to dash away the stars in your eyes… and think about cost too. 

Bridal Attendants are expensive (more so if you go the Traditional route than Modern… traditional is far more classy / kinder & considerate to those who are your nearest & dearest that stand up for you).  So before you ask anyone… think thru the WHOLE PROCESS

Here a link to one of my past topics on Traditional Roles, Responsibilities & Expenses

Maid/Matron of Honor & Bridesmaids (my Reply is # 6) = http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/barely-started-planning-and-already-the-dilemmas-too-many-bms#axzz2ngfEox5i

Bridesmaid or Best Man & Groomsmen / Ushers (my Reply is # 9) = http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/is-it-odd-for-groomsmen-to-not-even-give-a-card#axzz2ngfEox5i

Hope this helps,


Post # 7
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Washingtonian:  I’m planning on having 2 maids of honour: a sister and an adopted sister.

I do not want bridesmaids drama. Plus it would be hard to pick them. It would have to be a blend of old classmates from high school, old coworkers, current coworkers and childhood friends… too complicated!

Post # 8
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I did this. My SIL was my Matron of Honor and my Darling Husband had his best man and that was it. We had a really small wedding so it kind of suited it well. I don’t think it looked weird, at least I hope not 😛

This was us with our entire bridal party. Maid/Matron of Honor, Best Man, and flower girl.




Post # 9
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My first wedding, I had one attendant and she was my sister.  It was perfect; I let her pick out her dress and it was hassle free. 

Post # 10
1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’ll be doing this!  My sister will be my Matron of Honor and FI’s sister will be his “best woman.”  I have two groups of very close friends, and I just don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by asking one person over another, plus we want to keep things fairly simple.

Post # 11
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I’ve attended weddings with just one attendant, and it’s fine. The Maid/Matron of Honor loved it, as the bride was very flexible with what she wore.

Your college roommates can still be involved in planning, etc., *if* that’s their thing. If not, they’re off the hook. 🙂

Post # 12
8669 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We had one each, our siblings. Worked out fine IMO.

Post # 13
7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Washingtonian:  Yes, I’ve seen it a few times, including the most recent wedding I was at (groom’s best friend, bride’s sister). The Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor at least have a formal role – signing the register and maybe doing a speech. Any others are there just for the sake of including people, really.

Post # 14
1123 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m only having one attendant. My fiance’s family is not well off and they live in the UK and most of his friends are abroad as well. So rather than counting on three bridesmaids (MoH and my two sisters) having three attendants to match up with, I just simplified it to having only the one. My sisters were disappointed, but after I explained that Fiance might not have three people from his side willing to make an appearance, and that I couldn’t choose between my sisters, they got over it.

Post # 15
4940 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Washingtonian:   Well, I am having a “Best Woman”  and my Fiance will have a Best Man.  That’s it!!    We love it that way.  No drama!!!!! 

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