Post # 1
My co-worker just returned from her Destination Wedding last week. Although she wasn’t complaining. She said she only received one gift and was a little disappointed that out of 55 people she didn’t get any cards. She was wondering if that is normal for Destination Wedding, or do you think they will arrive later?
Post # 3
i should know what that is … dear wedding?
Post # 4
@alishaloo: It means “destination wedding.”
I would bring a gift, though it would probably be smaller (depending on how much I had to shell out for the travel expense). I’d bring a card even if it was on the moon!
Post # 5
It means Destination Wedding. I think most people would have the gift shipped to her house for a Destination Wedding. It’s weird about the cards though. Has she checked her registry?
Post # 6
@alishaloo: Destination Wedding
Post # 7
I think guests’ presence at a destination wedding is the present. You cannot expect people to shell out for airfare, hotels in a desireable location, meals other than the wedding, etc, and then also have lots of money left over for gifts. Awesome if you get it, but not at all required.
Post # 8
Oh gosh I am dumb.
Didn’t even think of that one.
IF somone asked me to go somewhere far for a wedding I wouldn’t be able to give a gift.
Once a three hour drive was the best I could do gift wise since I had to spend money in gas.
Bride didn’t mind.
I wouldn’t even ask for gifts myself at a Destination Wedding but they might come later… :S
Post # 9
I understand people not giving expensive gifts since probably going to the Destination Wedding already costs a lot, but I would expect at least a card with nice thoughts inside. Those are free!
Post # 10
I voted yes… but generally speaking, I have to be really close to someone to be willing to spend the cash to go to a destination wedding. I would get them something, but it probably wouldn’t be as much as a non-DW.
The total lack of cards is a bit odd, though.
Post # 11
Travel across Canada is expensive (often more-so than going out of country), and when going to weddings out of town, I still give a gift. If I am unable to attend a wedding, I send a gift. That’s just how I roll.
Post # 12
I would at a minimum give a card! That’s shocking she didn’t get any cards!
Post # 13
We went to a very expensive (for us) Destination Wedding that cost us several thousand dollars ($4+k?) and we still gave a gift to the couple. In fact, they gave us 50% less for our wedding than we did for theirs even though our wedding is local. In addition, I attended the bridal shower and brought a fairly pricey gift for that. In fact, we were invited to another Destination Wedding that we couldn’t attend (just would’ve been too expensive for us) and we still sent them a nice gift off their registry.
So yes, I find it surprising that the couple didn’t receive gifts or envelopes from the majority of the guests. I get that Destination Wedding are expensive but we don’t feel comfortable attending anything, even a casual BBQ, without something in hand.
Post # 14
I think it depends what kind of Destination Wedding it is. If it’s one where I have to spend 2k each for Darling Husband and I to go to a Sandals resort on some deserted island, no gift. If it’s just a wedding in another US city, I give presents!
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Personally I would and have given presents at destination weddings. However, getting there can be sooooo expensive, it should be understandable if people can’t afford to give one.
Post # 16
Guests are spending so much already. I probably would not be able to give a gift. A card for sure though.