(Closed) Only one gift is that normal?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Do you give a gift for a DW?
    Yes : (37 votes)
    65 %
    No : (20 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    DW?

    i should know what that is … dear wedding?

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    @alishaloo:  It means “destination wedding.”

    I would bring a gift, though it would probably be smaller (depending on how much I had to shell out for the travel expense).  I’d bring a card even if it was on the moon!

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    It means Destination Wedding.  I think most people would have the gift shipped to her house for a Destination Wedding.  It’s weird about the cards though.  Has she checked her registry?  

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @alishaloo:  Destination Wedding

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think guests’ presence at a destination wedding is the present. You cannot expect people to shell out for airfare, hotels in a desireable location, meals other than the wedding, etc, and then also have lots of money left over for gifts. Awesome if you get it, but not at all required.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Oh gosh I am dumb.

    Didn’t even think of that one.

    IF somone asked me to go somewhere far for a wedding I wouldn’t be able to give a gift.

    Once a three hour drive was the best I could do gift wise since I had to spend money in gas.

    Bride didn’t mind.

    I wouldn’t even ask for gifts myself at a Destination Wedding but they might come later… :S

    Post # 9
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    95 posts
    Worker bee

    I understand people not giving expensive gifts since probably going to the Destination Wedding already costs a lot, but I would expect at least a card with nice thoughts inside. Those are free!

    Post # 10
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    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I voted yes… but generally speaking, I have to be really close to someone to be willing to spend the cash to go to a destination wedding.  I would get them something, but it probably wouldn’t be as much as a non-DW.

    The total lack of cards is a bit odd, though.

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Travel across Canada is expensive (often more-so than going out of country), and when going to weddings out of town, I still give a gift. If I am unable to attend a wedding, I send a gift. That’s just how I roll.

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I would at a minimum give a card! That’s shocking she didn’t get any cards!

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We went to a very expensive (for us) Destination Wedding that cost us several thousand dollars ($4+k?) and we still gave a gift to the couple. In fact, they gave us 50% less for our wedding than we did for theirs even though our wedding is local. In addition, I attended the bridal shower and brought a fairly pricey gift for that. In fact, we were invited to another Destination Wedding that we couldn’t attend (just would’ve been too expensive for us) and we still sent them a nice gift off their registry.

    So yes, I find it surprising that the couple didn’t receive gifts or envelopes from the majority of the guests. I get that Destination Wedding are expensive but we don’t feel comfortable attending anything, even a casual BBQ, without something in hand.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think it depends what kind of Destination Wedding it is. If it’s one where I have to spend 2k each for Darling Husband and I to go to a Sandals resort on some deserted island, no gift. If it’s just a wedding in another US city, I give presents!

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    Personally I would and have given presents at destination weddings.  However, getting there can be sooooo expensive, it should be understandable if people can’t afford to give one.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Guests are spending so much already. I probably would not be able to give a gift. A card for sure though.

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