Post # 1
So its been 6 days since the wedding and its just now sinking in: My siblings did NOT show.
We had an intimate child-free wedding(ceremony at 3pm) and literally everyone who we invited rsvped yes and showed, except my three GROWN half siblings. To make matters worse, they live only an hour away. One even rsvped “yes” and then didnt bother to show/call/email/fb — his wife is on FB ALL.THE.TIME and she has yet to say so much as a congrats. In fact, some of you may remember, she said “you can count us in but don’t be surprised if you we don’t show up”.
The other two didn’t rsvp until I had to literally PULL IT OUT OF THEM and they said they couldn’t because they “couldn’t find sitters”.. when they had KNOWN since FEBRUARY that it was a child-free event. Its not like it started late, either, as i stated it started at 3pm. I just cant FATHOM why they couldnt at leat leave the kids home with their spouse and come down at least for the ceremony..
The brother who Rsvped yes (not the one who said count me in and maybe i’ll show.. one actually said theyd be there) didn’t even show or give explanation… he told our dad that his wife was sick. I facebooked her the next day and she said “Bryan had to work”.. umm what? the story doesn’t match!
since i haven’t heard from any of them in 6 days (!!!!!!) i cant help but feel like its personal….
I need a hug, bees =[
Post # 3
Consider yourself hugged.
You are right. It is personal! But it is a reflection on your half-siblings- not you.
It doesn’t matter what kind of relationship you had growing up, the mature adult thing to do is to show up and be happy for the sibling getting married.
Post # 4
Oh thats awful! But 6 days after your wedding!!! don dwel on it to much you should just be enjoying your marital bliss (and i know it would be hard with this being so distracting!!)
Post # 5
Awwwww! My sympathies. How disappointing for you – it is personal – it sounds like it is about the no-kids rule. That really sucks.
Post # 7
thank you so much guys. I’m trying not to feel so hurt but its so hard not to! =[
Post # 8
That’s lousy!!! My 3 brothers made it for my daughter’s wedding-BUT one of them apparently complained and said something to the effect of “I can’t wait to go home” in front of everyone! I think sometimes it is better to not have people there, who can’t be gratious and respectful!!! I don’t even know exactly what he said-cause nobody will really tell me what he said-another SIL-who wasn’t able to come knows though! So you may be lucky that they weren’t there to make snarky comments in front of your other guests!! I wish you a long and happy marriage and a happy honeymoon 😉
Post # 9
@snake: I can sympathize, my half-sister (and her +1) didn’t show. She sent me a text message saying she felt like death. But then like two days later was talking about how she can’t wait to party this coming weekend.
We have had a relationship that has been drifting apart the last couple of years. She is 10 years older than I am, but had kids young. So now she is partying like she is 19 and 20, but that isn’t my scene anymore.
I am so upset that she didn’t show.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2011 - The Viceroy
I’m so sorry that happened to you, I know I would be really hurt. I guess I’d just try to concentrate on all the people who were there for you and your husband.
Post # 11
I know how you feel..
my husbands sister, who had agreed to be my bridesmaid when we got engaged, backed out of the wedding party – and wedding altogether, only a month before we got married (and didn’t even tell ME), because she decided she couldn’t take off work to come, even though her parents (my in laws) were paying her way!
I actually found out from MY SISTER (who doesn’t even know my SIL) that she had backed out of the wedding, then I was left with an uneven number of BMs and GMs. It was sooo hurtful and even though my husband brushed off the fact that his sister wasn’t going to be at his wedding (even though they’re super close), I know he cared.
I cannot imagine missing my siblings weddings… that’s so.. personal.
Post # 13
Ugh. Wouldn’t it be nice if family behaved like…well, FAMILY? My sister has decided she isn’t coming. Thankfully my parents are brining my nieces and nephew.
BIG hugs. Don’t let it get you down. Remember that you and your husband are no less married because they chose not to witness the marriage take place. Bask in your new wifely glow!
Post # 14
Aw, I totally know how this feels. We have gotten serious backlash from family (mostly on my fiance’s side) and some of it is the whole ‘no kids’ reasoning. It’s hard – I hope that you can get past this soon.
We are two weeks away from the wedding – and I still have moments where I am furious with people for not coming. Most of the time, I’m pretty much fine with it though – their loss.
Post # 15
I know how you feel.
2 of my 3 brothers didn’t come to my wedding. My oldest brother didn’t give me a reason he just never rsvped and on the several occasions when my mom asked him if he was going he just asked the date and said he didn’t know if he’d be busy…I guess he was, seeing how he didn’t come. He did give my mom a card for us but i have a feeling it was his gf’s doing. My youngest brother said he might come by after work- he didn’t.
Neither have kids and both are older but live at home still and it wasnt distance the wedding was about 20 mins from their house…they just didnt want to come.
I was sad but i know it was them not wanting to see the rest of my family as a whole not just me.