Post # 1
Hey – I just need to vent a little pity party for a minute. If you’re going to post somethign nasty, please don’t bother reading any further. Thanks
Soooo…..for my bachelorette party, my Maid/Matron of Honor and FSIL/BM did the planning and coordinating. they let me in on a few details and it sounds super fun- we’re going to an improv drag show based on the “girls” going out on the town for one of their bachelorette parties. it should be a blast. We’re having dinner before that, and later on going to a huge karaoke bar where we will also be getting our own karaoke room for a couple hours (Limelight in Boston- anyone familiar?). We are gettinga suite in Boston for the night too. When asked who I would like invited, I checked off about 11 people on the wedding list to be invited to the Bach Party. Out of those people, 6 were BMs and 5 were friends and my Future Mother-In-Law (my mom was not invited because she said don’t invite me, i won’t be bale to do it – health reasons and whatnot)
So what’s the problem, right? TWO of my BMs aren’t coming. my TWO FSILs aren’t coming, and my Future Mother-In-Law isn’t coming either. So I feel like I have no friends. there will 4 BMs, me, and one other friend. Just six of us. Is it even worth it? I kind of want to tell them to just forget it. Or plan something else. Or change the date. What should I do?
Please help, Bees 🙁 To add insult to injury, my Fiance has like 20 guys coming to his Bridal Party which is a low-key game night/drinking at a friends’ home rec room type night. I’m stoked he is going to have a great night, don’t get me wrong. I just wish more people gave a shit about me. booooohooooo.
-end pity party-
Post # 3
Mine is just gonna be 5 girls and its gonna be fun 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
If half my invites able to make it, I’ll be happy- people have a lot going on in their lives- they’ll arrange their schedule around the wedding, but shower/bachelorettes, no. It sounds like you have a great evening planned- enjoy it!
Post # 5
I’m sorry 🙁 In my opinion, I think 6 girls sounds like the perfect amount to let loose and have a really fun time. I don’t think it needs to be more, but I can understand if you had a different vision in your mind. I don’t know if I can offer any advice, but if it was me I know that I would leave it and have a blast with those who came out to be with me. I had a friend who hosted a bachelorette party for some of her friends on a weekend and I think there were about 6 of them and they had a blast with all of the typical bachelorette trimmings. Have fun!
Post # 6
I guess I don’t see what the big deal is. The people who can/are able to come your bachelorette are coming. Sure it is smalles than you want but who cares, long as you have fun.
Mine only consisted of my Maid/Matron of Honor, Bridesmaid or Best Man, 2 friends and 2 of my SIL’s. We went and stayed at a resort town. We had a lot of fun, considering I was pregnant and couldn’t drink! Still had a good time. It is what you make of it.
Post # 7
Six does sound perfect. I’d love for six people to be at my bachelorette party. I don’t even know if I’m going to get one. Only one friend of mine actually lives in the area. And then there’s my sister. And they don’t like each other, so I doubt we’ll be going out together.
You’ll have fun, OP, don’t worry! Six people is still a party 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks everybody! You’re right- after reading your responses I feel much better. ijust wish my other two GFs/BMs could have mad eit, and i hate taht NO ONE from Fiance family are coming. Oh well – we are going to have a friggin BLAST!!!! I am just sore and bruised and in so much pain and so tiiiiiiired from running the Tough Mudder in VT yesterday. I am a good target for a pity party or any other emotional meltdown today 🙂 CHIN UP! drink Gatorade! 🙂 Thanks ladies! oxoxoxo
Post # 9
Mine was my Maid/Matron of Honor, Bridesmaid or Best Man, SIL and myself and I had a blast. Don’t worry about numbers. its about who is there not how many.
Post # 10
Don’t be sad! I cried for the exact same reason when I heard that several of my “friends” were bailing on my bachelorette party because they had other “plans.” It hurt a lot, especially because I have been through the wedding events for all of them and been there for ALL of the ir parties.
My sister said it best “the people who really love you and care for you will be there with you. And they are pretty fun people. ” It made me realize that I don’t need thirty girls around me because the best dozen or so will be there with me. 🙂
Don’t cancel. Go and enjoy.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
I think six sounds like the perfect number for a bachelorette party! But I’m more a of small groups kind of girl.
Post # 12
It’s ok. My will be 6 girls if that, I have a pretty small group of friends and they’re Out of Town so we’ll be in luck if they can make it here in time for a Bridal Party before the wedding.
Post # 13
My close girlfriends live at least 5 hours away from me, including my one and only attendant (or Bridesmaid).
I seem to somehow be surrounded by Males, probably because I work and volunteer in the emergency services, which around her tends to be male dominated.
So I have chosen not to bother with a Hens Night. It would be me, my mum and my sister and thats about it.
I plan on having a girly night with my bridesmaid, her daughters and my daughter the night before the wedding. My Bridesmaid or Best Man is pregnant, so there won’t be any hangovers the next day. Just a night of girly fun.
Post # 14
Fiance and I are both going to Vegas, just not at the same time. I will have my 4 bridesmaids and Fiance will have 2 of his groomsmen and like 1 or 2 other guys. We are both letting the wedding party take complete control over both parties. It will be fun regardless.
I think you should just forget about who’s not coming, and have fun with those who are coming. It’s your last big party before your wedding day, ENJOY IT!! I’ve been to big bachelorette parties and smaller ones, and I personally think the smaller ones are more fun. Everyone can ride together in one car, and you actually get to enjoy intimate conversations with everyone. Big parties are fun too, but then the group just ends up being split up in conversations and you have to worry about people getting lost along the way.
Post # 15
Six sounds like a great number! You’ll be able to talk to all of them and easily wrangle them from one activity to the next, haha.
I’m going camping for my bachelorette party, and I’m hoping it will just be my 2 BMs and 1 Maid/Matron of Honor — so that’s only 4 girls! But I hate big groups of people and I just get really quiet when there’s a lot of people, so maybe that’s just me.
Post # 16
I threw 2 bachelorette parties recently–1 of them had about 20 girls and the other had 8. The one with 8 was so much more fun–we all got to hang out and meet a few new people and there was no tendency to form into smaller groups–the 20 girls was insane. I felt like I was herding cats.
So your party sounds perfect to me!