(Closed) ONLY the bride wears white.

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
3311 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I didn’t care one bit.  It might be tradition, but if you didn’t think anything of it until someone else made a comment, then I wouldn’t say anything.  It’s your wedding though, so if you want to it’s your choice.  I just know that I barely noticed what people were wearing until I saw the pictures!

Post # 33
553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I would probably be too busy to care about what a guest is wearing unless its a big white ballgown or an overly sexy white dress. But i wouldn’t wear a white dress to anyone’s wedding.

Post # 34
3598 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

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@ms_nickie: If you’ve an evening wedding, it works with red wine.

Post # 35
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It would annoy me, yes. Not because i think anyone coud possibly steal my thunder or get confused as the bride, but because I feel like to wear white to a wedding, you’re purposefully trying to do something to annoy the bride… or you’re completely clueless. It just seems wierd to me that people wouldn’t realize that.

Post # 36
2194 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I went to a wedding last year where someone at our table was actually wearing her own wedding gown, with a chunky green cardigan over it. I’m talking full out, a-line, crystals and all gown. I certainly was not confused as to which one was the actual bride…but I was definitely confused as to why she made this fashion decision. I couldn’t help but feel disrespected for the bride!

That being said, I think it’s ok to wear a dress with white, as long as it’s not a “white dress”. If that makes any sense. And yes, I think red wine would probably work better than coffee…we don’t want to scald the silly faux pas makers 😉

Post # 37
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

A guest wore white to my wedding. Everyone comented, I felt sorry for the girl cause she honestly didn’t know.

Post # 38
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

my mum wore white to my wedding and looked fabulous – but i think its more of what your wearing than what colour – she wore a white suit – not a white gown so a huge difference

spot the bride and spot the morht of the bride…!


Post # 39
10282 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m big on the whole “only the bride wears white” concept. If someone showed up in a dress that was white but had other colors in it, then I wouldn’t really care. If you ask me, as a guest, you should stay away from anything white or ivory. There are only like a million other colors to choose from. Save white for the bride!

Post # 40
4108 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

To me, it seems like a common sense thing everyone should already know.. or at least I thought so. I don’t think it would be bad if someone else wore white to my wedding, like the PP’s picture of her mom above. I’ll be in Ivory & as long as nobody else is dressed like a BRIDE, I think I’m good with that… 

Post # 41
482 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@pinkandsparkly: w.t.f. really? i would be appalled to see something like that. i hope people looked at her strangely…

Post # 42
7691 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think with a much smaller wedding like yours I would care more about this rule. I had a few people wear white to my wedding and did not think it was a big deal at all. The people who were wearing white wore short cocktail style dresses and I was wearing a wedding gown. There was no confusing of who was who.

Post # 43
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have just decided that this is a battle I don’t care to fight.  I want the wedding to be a stress free as possible and if someone chooses to wear white I honestly don’t care.  The attention will still all be on the bride and groom. 

But I do have a friend who’s new mother in law decided to wear white on her wedding and she was very upset.  It ended up being just a cultural difference and the mother in law had no idea of that rule.  So if it bothers you, I think just be honest about it.  The friend may not know as much as you think most people do.

Post # 44
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I went as a guest to my friend’s brother’s wedding.  I didn’t know the couple.  I also didn’t know I wasn’t supposed to wear white.  I was like 19 y/o and had never been to a wedding before.  It was a simple linnen sheath and wasn’t bridal at all, but I think back on it now and am mortified for my 19 y/o self.

Post # 45
5839 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I found out my godmother is wearing an “Ivory” cocktail dress to my wedding. It didn’t bother me as much as I thought it would, I just find it odd that it didn’t even cross her mind while she was shopping.

Post # 46
6390 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

It would kind of annoy me, but I’m not going to have bouncers remove anyone not wearing the proper color :).

I think there are some situations where you know the person is wedding-naive, like in poor missrobots’ case, and that’s not a big deal to me. It does annoy me greatly that my mother keeps trying on white dresses after I’ve repeatedly asked her not to, though. She’s not trying to upstage me or anything, she’s just sort of disregarding how I feel about the situation.

It’s all about intent to me.

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