Only The Bride's Makeup

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think it’s dependant on the norms where you live? Here, the bride pays for dress, shoes, jewellery, hair, makeup for bridesmaids as well as dictates the whole look. I also don’t think I’ve personally met a bride/maids who did their own hair/makeup. It would just be considered to be one of the items in the budget.  I even went to a backyard wedding with the bride in jeans and she had professional hair/makeup. Must be an Aussie thing.

Post # 17
3884 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I only had my makeup done professionally. One of my bridesmaid’s sisters was really good at hair and makeup and she offered to come and help the others which was great as not all of them were confident to do it. 

Post # 18
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

My girls paid for their own dresses, but i offered hair and makeup, telling them it was up to them. One girl is doing all, one just hair, one just makeup, one neither. In your case i think the best bet is to just have them arrive when hair and makeup is done…

Post # 19
8714 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

patchm :  I wouldn’t feel hurt at all bee, hair and make up is expensive. If I was your Bridesmaid or Best Man I would happily pay to have mine done (because I literally can’t do anything with my hair and I can do my makeup to an every day level. For what it is worth, my sister gets married soon and she is kindly paying for my make-up and I am paying for my hair. 

Post # 20
785 posts
Busy bee

Personally, I think you’re fine – and I also want to remind you that getting your makeup done isn’t particularly fun, so it’s not like she’s watching you get a massage or something awesome. I doubt she’ll think twice about it. Yoiu’re the bride! So it makes sense that you want to get something special done. If your BMs decide, they can go book blowouts at a local drybar type place or make appointments to get makeup done elsewhere

Post # 21
46 posts
  • Wedding: June 2016

When I got married I just let the girls (no bridesmaids but my friends I’d be getting ready with) know what I was getting done and asked them if they wanted me to book anything in for them or if they would prefer to save their money by doing their own. This made it obvious I wasn’t able to pay for them, but gave them the chance to book in some pampering if they wanted. They decided to do each others hair and makeup so there wasn’t any waiting around watching me being pampered anyway!!

Post # 22
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

Don’t worry about it – no one is going to feel bad that you are getting your hair and makeup done and they aren’t. YOU are the bride, of couse you’re going to get yours done, duh! lol. It’s not like you’re offering to pay for some people and not ohers. 

If you really feel bad and can squeeze in the budget, maybe offer to do hair professionally but makeup on their own? But as long as you don’t care about how they look, this really shouldn’t be an issue.

Post # 23
2801 posts
Sugar bee

It’s pretty normal for brides not to pay for hair and makeup as long as they don’t force the bridesmaids to have it done professionally.

Lots of girls don’t even actually like having their makeup done because a lot of us like it done a particular way. I was just at my SIL’s wedding over the weekend, and her bridesmaids and mum all ended up having to fix/redo the makeup they got. 

I just paid for my bridesmaid’s hair because it was super hot so I wanted them to be able to have a nice updo – which are difficult to do on your own. If you’re ok with them wearing it down and casula then it’s totally fine. 

Post # 24
281 posts
Helper bee

There is absolutely no issue or problem with you not paying for bridesmaid hair and make-up, HOWEVER, I do think its a little inconsiderate not to have discussed this with them with less than 2 weeks to go. They are left asking you about it and you ‘afraid to be saying no’. They need to be told. I would have no problem with a bride not paying for my makeup or hair would i would want to be told in advance so that i could book my own appointments. Its sounds like your bridesmaids dont know what is happening the morning of your wedding or what is expected of them.

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