Post # 31
I was also expecting a real horror…..but your dress is beautiful. Simple, elegant, bridal and actually pretty flattering. If you hate the bling, could you remove it and replace it with a plain sash or ribbon or get something like a pearl applique rather than a crystal one. .. whatever is more ‘you’ ?
You really do seem to hate it though so maybe other bees’ suggestions would work better for you. You have to feel like yourself on your big day and I completely understand why you want your husband to be enchanted by you. Let us know what you do. I think your figure will look good in most dresses.
Post # 32
- Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church
I honestly don’t see anything wrong with the dress! Maybe the shoulder straps look a bit wide-set but I never would have noticed had you not said anything. Of course, it’s not good that you don’t feel comfortable in it, but perhaps the seamstress will be able to let out the armholes to your satisfaction. I really think it flatters you and you look gorgeous!
Post # 33
I feel your pain! When are you getting married? I’m 2nd April. I too borderline hate my dress although it is a million times better than it was Last week now the illusion neck line had been taken out.
But I don’t feel it is the best dress for me. It’s a horrible feeling.
All this said… And just my point of view …. I think your dress is beautiful and I think on the day it will look so gorgeous.
BUT dress regret … Is a real thing!
came across this which eased me for a while http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/before-and-afterchanging-room-photos-vs-professional-photos/
and this article….
All the best to you …. no matter what i recon you will look a million dollars on your wedding day
good luck xxxxx
Post # 34
THANKYOU SO MUCH, everybody, for all your advice, help and support. I didn’t expect to receive so many replies and am really so incredibly touched that you ladies would go out of your way to offer the help that you have, including trawling through the shops that offer bridal gowns on the UK High Street!
I particularly loved the pretty lace tea dress from Monsoon and the £75 bargain from Dorothy Perkins. I feel less panicky now that I know that I could probably get a dress like this just days before the wedding if the dress that I already have is a 100% write off.
I’m going to phone the Seamstress first thing on Monday morning and ask her exactly what she is planning on doing to the dress to put it right. Although I don’t have pictures of myself in the gown after she had taken excess material away from the length I did think it looked a lot better in that respect. It’s just the pigs ear she had made of the top half that I was unhappy about. It wasn’t just that it looked a right mess, it was the fact that the tightness of the sleeves pretty much cut off my blood supply! I’d already paid the Seamstress and I will certainly request a refund if she can’t put things right.
It’s weird but I feel so much calmer about the whole situation since posting here. Everyones replies have kinda helped me put things into perspective. Sure, I want to look lovely on my wedding day but the wedding isn’t just about a dress. It’s about my fiancé and I saying our vows and making a life long commitment in front of our close family and friends. The wedding is going to be a very tiny affair (less than 20 people!) and I know that the people there aren’t going to think any less of me because I don’t look like a Princess in the perfect dress.
Believe me when I say that some of the positive comments about what I looked like in the dress brought tears to my eyes. I’ve always had issues about my appearance which I know stems from very low self esteem – yes I really do see something hideous looking back a me when I look in the mirror! – so it meant a lot to read such kind comments from ladies that I know are genuine and honest in their responses. I’m 48 and a lot heavier than I’ve ever been, but I know that I would have pulled myself apart exactly the same way 20 years ago.
All of you ladies are beautiful inside and out and I’m sure that when your big day arrives everything will pale into insignificance (dresses, flowers, napkin rings!) when your husband-to-be takes your hand and says ‘I do”
Thanks again for all the help and support ladies, it’s appreciated far more than you could ever know.
I will keep everyone updated on what happens regarding the dress and will perhaps post a pic of the big event on April 1st.
Post # 35
I think YOU have a beautiful shape and I don’t think the dress looks unflattering to be clear, I also think the dress itself is very pretty, I think the blame lies with the poor alterations. You can totally put this right with 2 weeks to go though, there are so many options I never knew about until I started looking around. I would say the modcloth dresses are chi chi London and I’ve had a couple of those and they are really nice with a lot more puffyness and tulle than the pictures suggest. They’d definitely work. Go on the Chichi London website, they deliver in like 48 hours. Their sizing is small so I’d size up 1 size if ordering. They have a good returns policy. Good luck. You’ll look gorgeous either way.
Post # 36
YOU are the beautiful one. I can’t believe you are 48! You are going to look great, whatever happens.
By The Way, if you were going the Dorothy Perkins option, you may want to get a move on as there are only 2 size 14s left and I think the dress is only available online now, not in stores.
Post # 37
I’ve not totally written off my original gown if the Seamstress can put it right, but I have sent off for the Dorothy Perkins tea dress as a possible reserve. I’m a size 12 not a 14 but hopefully I could clinch in the waist if needs be and wear a padded bra if the bust area is a little baggy. At the very least, I will get an idea of weather a tea style lace dress would actually suit me and the fact that it is only £75 is a big plus. My wedding gown (including assessoraries such as veil and shoes) was around £1000 so I really don’t want to be spending hundreds more on another dress that I will, let’s face it, only be wearing for one day. Nothing ventured, nothing gained and all that and if the shorter dress isnt right I can easily take it back to the store and get a refund.
Anyway, thanks so much for all your help clairebbbear
Post # 38
you sound such a lovely person, I must be hormonal as I’ve teared up over this thread! so glad you’re feeling better and have a plan, you’re going to have a wonderful wedding day
Post # 39
try debinhams department store. I got a prom dress for £100 that I used as my wedding dress. It’s cheap and of the rack.
Having said that I do like the dress you have.
Good luck hun. Massive hugs x
Post # 40
I know it is past your wedding date now, I’d love to see how the dress turned out! For what it’s worth, I was expecting something really unflattering when you were describing it and when I saw the pictures, I was shocked… So so beautiful and flattering on you!!
Post # 41
I agree, I’d love to hear an update and see what dress you decided on!