Post # 1
I’m in college and Fiance is graduating in the spring, and we recently got engaged:
Problem is, when people see the ring on my finger, I hear, “Oh, what a pretty promise ring!” I want to chew them out, but polietly tell them that it is in fact an engagement ring. Then I get, “Wow, that’s actually a diamond?” I get the impression that in some people’s minds, a 1/2 carat diamond isn’t big enough to be an ering (my mother’s was 1/10 carat solitare and my grandmother didn’t even have one) since everyone is so used to seeing 2+ carats on celebs and blingy CZ bracelets and earrings. Yes, I used to have a promise ring that had it’s home on my RIGHT finger for two years (yellow gold with our birthstones), but it was recently replaced my this beauty. Yes, I am young. Yes, the ring is 1/2 carat. No, it is not a promise ring. I’m not playing house with my boyfriend; I am getting married.
Another thing that is sort of related, but also gets under my skin: Diamond solitare promise rings. I also feel this is a reason I get the whole “Oh, nice promise ring” gig. I have a friend that I love dearly, but has a 1/5 carat diamond solitare promise ring that she wears on her left ring finger and gets offended when people ask if she is engaged. If you don’t want it confused with an engagement ring, don’t wear it like one. GAH! Sorry about a sorta bitchy rant, but it’s only been a week and it’s already getting on my last nerve!
Post # 3
Hmm…it looks like an engagement ring to me. Not sure why people think otherwise.
Post # 4
Lovely ENGAGEMENT ring! 😉
Post # 5
your diamond is double the size of mine and no one ever thought it was anything other than an e-ring! weird comments you are getting.
Post # 6
A half carat is too small for an engagment ring?? Maybe it is just me but my half carat looks pretty stinking amazing if I do say so myself. My mom’s was a 1/3, my grandma’s is about that too. Fiance mom doesn’t even have a diamond I don’t think. I know FIs grandma doesn’t have a diamond ring at all.
Post # 7
@dynamic_duo: Yeah, mine’s a third of a carat! I would just keep correcting them, OP. It might be because you look really young or somehing (not that that’s too comforting either, sorry!), but your ring is gorgeous and definitely looks like an e-ring to me!
Post # 8
That’s really strange that people are making that comment… my ring is a half carat center stone, and no one has ever mistaken it for anything other than an engagement ring!
Post # 9
Exactly! Since the only engagement ring I have ever seen is my mother’s 1/10 carat, 1/2 carat and even the 1/4 carat solitares looked pretty freaking huge to me! I love my ring and no one will ever convince me otherwise 😉
I do think part of the reason I am getting these comments is that I am still in college and promise rings are more common than erings, so people just assume it is one. However, it’s on my left finger! To me, that is a dead giveaway that is nothing but an ering.
Post # 10
It’s a beautiful ring! And shoutout to another Kentucky bride! 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant
Ew, how rude!! I think your ring is lovely!
Post # 12
It looks like an e-ring to me!!
My DH (when were dating, after 3 years) got me this promise ring, and I still wear it (on my right hand now), I feel like this is more obvious looking as apromise ring because all 3 stones are the same size, only the middle one is slightly raised:
Post # 13
I think your ring is beautiful! Try not to let them get to you!
Post # 14
That sucks. My guess is that it is almost entirely due to your age.
Post # 15
Wow.. that’s really odd. Do you look a lot younger than you are? Maybe it has more to do with that than with the ring… there’s no way I’d guess that a diamond of any size on a grown woman’s left ring finger was a promise ring. :-/
Post # 16
I would have never thought it was a promise ring.