(Closed) “ooh, what a nice promise ring!” VENT

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
1561 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@MrsTVLover: Agreed!  

It isn’t the size of your ring, but rather your age.  Which doesn’t really make it any better.  

Your ring is beautiful.

Post # 18
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well congratulations on being engaged!! That is a gorgeous ring!  I don’t understand how people could be saying such uber rude things.  A half carat is a hefty diamond, and regardless, an engagement ring is an engagement ring.  Congratulations!!

Post # 19
4108 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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@Lt.Columbo: +1.

It looks like an engagement ring to me!! Congrats! Try not to let other people make you feel insecure about it.

Post # 20
970 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I have the same situation!. I’m 20 and have a 1/2 carat halo. People assume that it’s fake, that it’s a promise ring…No doubt society as whole have become more materialistic (not everyone!) I have a friend who got a 1/3 carat promise ring (Which looked like a tradiional e-ring) and told me “No this is a promise ring, it’s not big enough to be an e-ring” as if there is a specific size that suddenly means it’s an e-ring. 

Idk I’d just try to be polite even though it’s tough sometimes, i know

Post # 22
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We don’t really have promise rings here but I would never have thought that yours was – it clearly looks like an engagement ring and it’s gorgeous, so congratulations. I have a 1/5 carat diamond solitaire and no one has ever said it’s a promise ring. I wouldn’t let it get to you too much – you have a lovely ring and you’re getting MARRIED! That’s a big deal! 🙂

Post # 23
5667 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m 23. My Fiance is 33. We both have professional jobs that pay well. I chose a .59ct solitaire. I’ve gotten a few comments about it. One was a good friend saying to his girlfriend that my ring was too and that small he would spend at least $10k on a ring after looking at mine. I was so mad that I pulled him aside and explained that I chose my ring for extremely personal family reasons and that it cost a lot closer to $10k than he might me thinking. I only did that because he’s a close friend. He definitely put his foot in his mouth on that one.

Really recently I had an employee (who knows I’m engaged) ask if my engagement ring was my promise ring. It hurt. I rolled my eyes at him and said “No, of course not.”

Some people are just fucking stupid.

Post # 24
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Well I think it’s beautiful, and those people are clearly either rude, or don’t know what they’re talking about- or both!

Post # 25
2948 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

some ppl are just completely rude. I wouldnt ever think it was a promise ring. I would just automatically assume its an engagement ring.

Whatever, dont worry about the haters lol Its beautiful and if you love it; thats all that matters.

Post # 26
3798 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If other peers in college are saying that to you, likely it is because they are young and dont know anyone else that is engaged ‘for real’.

If I saw it on you IRL I would assume you are engaged.

Post # 27
2102 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Not trying to be rude to your friends, but they’re young…

When I was in undergrad and dating this guy, my friends and I all picked out rings. Minimum of 2 carats. All sorts of unneeded bling. And then you get older. And you work and you start getting serious in your relationship…and you find out how much this stuff REALLY costs.

Even now, I’m 25, when I tell some of my friends that my ring is not even a carat (it’s like .75 or something, and I love it), they make comments on what huge rings they want. It’s naivete. You can wear a big old rock, but it may not be quality. People aren’t aware of cost or quality issues until they have to engage in the process themselves.

Enjoy your ring!

Post # 28
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

That’s really odd. If it makes you feel better, my diamond’s a carat with a halo (30 more diamonds)–it is not a small ring–and I did have someone reference it as a promise ring and ask when i thought I’d get engaged. WTF?! People are dumb.

Post # 29
595 posts
Busy bee

It certainly looks like an engagment ring to me… that’s so silly that they would say that… wouldn’t a promise ring be worn on the other hand, or a different finger?

Post # 30
3311 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Really?  That looks like an e-ring to me.  People are nuts.  TBH my DH didn’t have a ring for me when we first got engaged, so we used one that I happened to have with me on the trip:

We did do shopping together for an e-ring and ended up buying a promise ring (and used it as my e-ring) because that was what we could afford:


I loved both of them and was proud to show them off!  I still wear my Engagement Ring (on the other hand now) even though it doesn’t go or fit with my wedding band set.  🙂  Don’t let ignorant silly people get you down!  

Post # 31
407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Your ring looks a lot like mine, but it’s a little too blurry for me to know if we’re ring twins (which would be exciting since I don’t think I have one yet!).  And It’s definitely an engagement ring.  Some people don’t think before they speak. 

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