(Closed) “ooh, what a nice promise ring!” VENT

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That totally looks like an engagement ring!

Also, about your pet peeve, I think to each their own.  When I was with an ex he gave me a promise ring, which I thought I should wear on my ring finger, which happened to be a 1/4 carat solitaire.  So yeah it looked like an e-ring, but I would just tell people that it was actually my promise ring.  So I think those are some really weird comments you’re getting, since your e-ring is bigger than my old promise ring and everyone thought that was an e-ring…

Post # 48
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820 posts
Busy bee

To each his own when it comes to things like rings!

I’m probably going to get bashed here, but here goes. . .

After dating SO for a year, he gave me a promise ring.  We are in an LDR, and he wanted me to have something to remind me of him.  It’s a .41ct princess cut solitaire that, yes, looks like an engagement ring, and yes, is worn on my left ring finger.  No one has ever asked me if it’s a promise ring, and only a few people have asked if I got engaged.  Everyone close to me knows what my ring is and what it stands for.  It was given to me as a promise ring and therefore that’s what it is.  It would make a beautiful engagement ring as well, but it is not an engagment ring simply because it was not given to me as such.

I honestly don’t care what anyone else thinks about it because I love it and what it represents.

To the OP:  I’m sorry that people mistake your ring for a promise ring.  Don’t worry about what people think.  It is a lovely ENGAGEMENT ring, and it’s what it means to you and your FI that matters!

Post # 49
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Why does your financial situation dictate how people judge what you should have or like anyway? I started dating my fiance over ten years ago when we were both broke students….and now when he finally got around to proposing (he beat me to it by 2 weeks) he is a partner at his law firm and I’m a successful investment banker. Do I have a big bling-ster of a ring? No.  I lent him $50 to buy something at a tourist shop (no diamonds in sight) as all the ATMs were broken down, it doesn’t fit, it’s on my middle finger and people/family/colleagues all think its a temporary, that we’ll “upgrade” because we can do so much better. Now that we’re a couple of weeks from the wedding I’m getting more comments, people try to be nice but can’t hide the shock.

Ring, no ring, pretzel or a cheezel. Who cares what they think.

Post # 50
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Busy bee

@Sanna:  You remind me a friend of mine (she’s actually a lawyer).  She would always say, “I can wear a piece of dental floss and it would mean the same to me as a diamond!”

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am eagerly awaiting my engagement ring as we bought it online……

its a tad over half….0.60ct,  but i love it and thats all that matters.  and if anyone asks me if its a promise ruing i will kill them with my bare hands!   LOL 

 

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Your e-ring is lovely! I don’t see why people would ask if it is a promise ring if you tell them your engaged then show them?!

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

People are strange and unfortunately don’t think before they speak sometimes. I’d just brush it off as that and not take it too seriously. Otherwise you will let them make you crazy. :/ To reply to your other comment, I don’t really understand how they differetiate promise and engagement rings sometimes too. When my fiance and I were shopping for an e-ring we stopped and at looked at some sparkly gold/diamond rings. The jeweler came up and asked what she could help us with and we replied e-ring shopping. Then she said, “oh THOSE are promise rings come to THIS counter where we have e-rings”. We just looked at the rings, then at eachother in total confusion as we walked to the other counter. Honestly, they all looked the same.

Post # 55
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

we i got engaged to DH1, we were both 20 and juniors in college.  my ring was a 0.32ct diamond, and had a very unique design with garnet side stones.  nobody ever took it for anything other than what it was.  we got a lot of rude comments about our ages, but nobody assumed it was a promise ring. then again, promise rings weren’t really done at all in our circle, or even really in our area at the time.  maybe they just weren’t that popular in 2003?  now i have a colored gemstone ering and nobody takes it for anything other than what it is.

sorry you’re dealing with that.

Post # 56
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Newbee

I think your ring is beautiful and I don’t see how people could mistake it for anything but an engagement ring.

If it makes you feel any better, a lot of people stare at my 1/6th of a carat stone before timidly asking if I’m engaged. I always laugh it off and say yes and when they ask about my ring or want to look at it I explain it’s what I wanted, dainty and simple and never in the way. Usually they get over the ring quickly and move on to the next subject. I know it’s easier said then done but try to not let them get under your skin. You know your ring is beautiful and you don’t need any one else’s approval.

Post # 57
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Aure: You said it! People can just be so ignorant.

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

looks like an engagement ring to me…people are just a-holes and are stupid! LOL

enjoy your beautiful ring, and remember what i said about people! 😉

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I got that one time. A girl said it was a pretty ring and asked if it was a promise ring. I told her it was an engagement ring. She probably felt very foot-in-mouth, so I don’t think about it anymore.

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Definitely looks like an e ring! Mine is a three diamond ring, and combined they are only 1/3 carat, so you have a great one!

Post # 61
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

them bitches be crazy..

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