(Closed) “ooh, what a nice promise ring!” VENT

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 62
13 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

Your engagement ring is very pretty! I wouldn’t have confused it with a promise ring. 

A lot of people are kinda small-minded concerning wedding/engagement traditions, with particular thanks to mainstream media. There’s so many traditions & they’re changing all the time. Some people don’t even wear rings in marriage. Way back when, men didn’t wear wedding bands- that apparently just became popular around WW2, & now it’s considered a marriage necessity. Some people get tattoos, some women have their nose pierced, & there is also an old tradition where, when you’re engaged, you wear the e-ring on your right hand, & when you get married, switch to your left. Some women don’t get any rings until they’re actually married, & only a few centuries ago, couples often didn’t have rings. It all depends on what’s special to your heart, so I personally don’t push people with, “No, it needs to be done like THIS!” 

My promise ring is a white gold band with a princess-cut pink tourmaline (my birthstone), with two tiny CZs on each side. I never wore it on my right hand, just my left, because that’s where I liked it. Now I have an engagement ring, so my promise ring sits in my jewelery box, or on my right ring finger sometimes, not sure what to do with it yet.

It’s sad to say that people often think inside the box, for measure of comfortability on the subconscious preference of letting suggested/mass social standard think or make decisions for them. :/

But, anyways- again! Nice ring, it is beautiful. What matters is that you have a token of your love. 🙂 Congrats!


Post # 63
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

@london: People are rude for many reasons, and it’s hard to pinpoint what their motives are. 1/2 carat is a very nice engagement ring! Yours looks great. I hope you can ignore stupid people. It’s hard sometimes, I know. Wishing you the best! I really like your ring! 

Post # 64
2252 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ignore it. There will always be someone who will think your ring is too small or too big. As long as it makes you happy that’s what matters.

Post # 65
2859 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow, those people don’t know what they’re talking about.

The picture is blurry but I can tell it’s an engagement ring! People focus too much on the size! Wait until they actually figure out that carat is not all that a diamond is about!

My e-ring is also half a carat…0.59 to be exact and people know it’s an engagement ring.

Post # 66
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I told my SO that I want nothing bigger than 0.6 ct! we’re probably going to end up with a diamond0.4-0.5… not everyone wants a huge rock on their hands, it’s all personal preference! those ppl are very rude for making such assumptions and then having those remarks afterwards about if it’s real or why it’s so small. they should mind their own damn business and just be happy for you.

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