Post # 1
Next weekend I am meeting my 22-year old future stepson. I’m really excited and just a tad nervous. I know I should just be myself, but beyond that, any bees have advice for me? If you have a step-parent, is there anything that he or she could have done better to make you more comfortable with them?
Post # 3
i didnt have a step parent but I have step sisters. just be yourself, and treat them like an adult you would meet at work or through a mutual friend, you dont want to come off like you’re greeting a child in a way.
Post # 4
It totally depends on the situation. I have a step father, he’s the only ‘father’ I’ve ever known. My Mother married him when I was 10. As a child I had always wanted him to treat me like a daughter, as opposed to a nuisance. Since you stepson is older, he’s not looking for you to fill any shoes. Instead, I’d be myself as you already know, and I’d show interest in getting to know him. Ask questions that aren’t too invasive. Keep it light hearted. And show him how sweet ya are to his Father, that will definitely help. If my Mother were engaged or even dating, I’d have to see the man treat my Mom like a queen before I’d support their relationship! Good luck and have fun 🙂
Post # 5
I have had three step-parents over the years. My stepdad is like a real father to me, because I was very young when he came into my life. My dad’s ex-wife was also a mother figure to me until they broke up. She was very warm and welcoming, and took a genuine, consistent interest in me and my life. My dad is now married again and while his wife is a good person and a great mom to their kids together, she never made a consistent effort. Sometimes she would try to act nice and interested in me, but it felt fake because it was inconsistent. Other times she was standoffish. I was 16 when they got together and I honestly really wanted to like her and have a relationship with her. If you make the effort and are sincere, I think it will be just fine, as long as that’s what your stepson wants as well. If he is standoffish, I wouldn’t push too much, but be consistently warm and interested in him. The fact that you are even asking advice about this means you genuinely want to have a good relationship with him so I think that means you will be a great stepmom!
Post # 6
Hi ladies – just wanted to follow up. Thanks for the advice and the words of wisdom. I met future step-son this weekend and it went great. Really great. We got along so well, and he even complimented me to his dad. I am so happy about this. Yay!