Post # 17
@MrsWBS: Here’s a picture of the engagement ring
Sorry for the size.
I’m a simple classic kind of girl. So many chips in the band drives me nutz. It feels such it makes a big effort to be “blingy”. Which is why FH liked it, it was more “blingy” than my promise ring.
Post # 18
keep the tungsten ring for camping! get a ring that you really want too!
besides, it’s bad to throw stuff in the ocean. a sea creature could get stuck in it. this happens all the time from our trash that ends up in the ocean 🙁
Post # 20
I have another option for you. 🙂 What if you continue to wear the tungsten ring on your right hand so you will still be wearing the ring that matches your husband’s, but you can also have a ring that you like better on your left hand? I do something similar. My husband and I both have yellow gold Claddagh rings but mine is much fancier than his (because mine has gemstones whereas his is just plain solid gold). Since I also happen to have a plain solid yellow gold ring that looks a lot more like his ring than my fancy Claddagh, I also wear the plain solid ring just so I can match him. 🙂
As for your engagement ring, that’s truly unfortunate. I’m actually quite fond of your ring because I love bling, but I personally wouldn’t want to wear anything that was plated because it won’t stand the test of time. Silver (even though I dearly love it) also has a bad tendency to tarnish. I think your fiance should consider getting you an engagement ring made with your grandmother’s heirloom diamond. 🙂
Post # 21
Another option: ditch engagement ring – I understand why you don’t like it – and get another e-ring. Wear Tungsten on your right hand or keep it for outdoor activities and get a nice band that goes with the e-ring.
Post # 22
Don’t throw the ring overboard. There are several really good reasons not to do this, some of which PPs touched on.
At least leave it with an anonymous note on a good samaritan’s doorstep, or donate it to a cause you believe in, or trade it for some good or service you need on Craigslist, or hold some sort of a contest to give it to a man who can’t afford something half as nice for his Fiance. Don’t just throw it away though. There are so many wonderful things, including melting it down, that could be done with this ring. Someone worked really hard to get that out of the earth, there’s no reason to waste it.
Post # 23
Use the family heirloom as your engagement ring, get a new band to match, and either do your throwing it overboard thing, or make it into something fabulous and new! I would keep the tungsten band for your active days! As long as your fiance is cool with it, then do it! I’m not super sentimental about jewelry like this… I think it’s a-okay to change! 🙂
Post # 24
I’d vote for selling BOTH your e-ring and the tungsten. Take the money to get something you really like and maybe even a custom piece using your mom’s heirloom stone? While it IS the meaning that really matters, this is something you are going to be wearing the rest of your life.
Post # 25
Don’t throw it in the ocean… it might end up in something’s stomach 🙁
Post # 26
oh I would totally use the family heirloom ring 100%!
Personally, I think tungsten isn’t a super feminine metal so I would probably pass on that one… maybe use it for your adventurous activities but not for everyday…
I would then get yourself a wedding band to match the heirloom ring… I think its a fabulous story and I love the nostalgia involved.
Your Fiance tried and you can appreciate that but I think its much sweeter to keep the family ring going and add your own touch with the wedding band of your choice… I love the idea of it!
Post # 27
Why would you throw the ring he purchased for you away? At the very least, I would sell it/trade it in on a new ring.
Post # 28
Lol, I didn’t vote because quite honestly I got very confused by all the various options without having corresponding pics to look at / compare
But I agree with the other Bees…
PLEASE Do Not Throw this other ring away… especially not in the Ocean
Personally I like the idea that EffieTrinket:
came up with in Reply # 21…
… hold some sort of a contest to give it to a man who can’t afford something half as nice for his Fiance. Don’t just throw it away though. There are so many wonderful things, including melting it down, that could be done with this ring. Someone worked really hard to get that out of the earth, there’s no reason to waste it
Guaranteed there is some poor soul out there WISHING he could find a way to get a ring for his Girlfriend this upcoming Holiday Season.
And God knows there is evidence on the WBee WAITING BOARD that there are plenty of women… waiting, hoping, wishing & praying.
I say play “Santa’s Elf” and find up a way to make this happen for someone…
You could do an on-line contest (create a website)… OR you could contact your local Newspaper, Radio or Tv Station, and see if they can’t help you on your Quest to see this ring go to a GOOD & LOVING HOME
Post # 29
Have you ordered the tungsten rings yet? Because you could just get two in his size if you don’t like them. Because as much as this sucks he might lose it (my boss lost his on his honeymoon and is still mad about it 10 years later). At least if you don’t like yours, he has a backup that he loves!
As for the e-ring, sell it if you don’t like it. Or take out the diamonds and put them into a necklace, so you still have the sentiment of when he asked (he tried!).
Don’t throw it into the ocean… can you make a biodegradable “e-ring substitute” to throw into the ocean instead? Maybe you can both write some things on it to “throw away” together? 🙂 Just a thought (so no one finds a blinged-out dolphin two years from now)
Post # 30
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I think you should sell the engagement ring for some money towards a new band… just my opinion. Throwing it overboard would be so wasteful… but if you don’t need to worry about the cash then I guess that’s fine. 🙂