- 10 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
Really great post MissBliss.
Really great post MissBliss.
Regardless of personal beliefs or culture, a house of worship deserves respect. Especially if Fiance is involved with the Church.
Monkey Girl said something to the effect that pooping is natural, but you wouldn’t do that in church.
Ummm…I poop at church all the time. Ya know…jus’ sayin’.
LOL! The original comment that was made was that pooping is natural, but you wouldn’t do it in the AISLE at church. I REALLY hope you’re not pooping in the church aisles, Miss Biner, or we’re going to have to start a new thread!!!
I want to sincerely apologize for those on Weddingbee who found it necessary to be as rude, snarky, and completely disrespectful, not to mention, judgmental of you and your Fiance. I will be praying for them. They have personally caused me great disgust. I wish you the best and I hope that all blows over quickly. Always remember that you only live once, & I can promise you I am no saint. To each his own as many have said, but I imagine that when you are both 80, still happily married and sitting on a porch swing, you will be laughing and looking back on how fun it was to be young. Am I am saying it was a great decision, no, but neither were some of the choices I have made. We live, we learn, & that is how it goes! I wish you the best! 🙂
Oh please, can’t this thread just die?????
Judgy judgy here, [some] christian bees. “Judge not lest ye be judged”.. that’s the quote I remember from The Simpsons, at least.
Nicely stated MissBliss. I don’t condone what’s been done, but I like WB cause generally people aren’t snarky and mean. Best Wishes VWIT
Missbliss how insightful I couldnt have put it better. I think its time we lay this post to rest though.
Dude, wow. What a thread.
I’m a lawyer, and I would probably get fired if anyone caught me having sex in my office. I’m surprised anyone would expect any other workplace to be different.
Goodness, I just saw this post! Like others, I feel it’s been discussed to death and won’t jump in with my own opinion (I see you got many from both sides of the fence.)
But, as a fellow atheist, I would like to address some of the Christian comments on here: I understand that some of you missed when the OP said she was an atheist, but for those who quoted Bible verses at the OP and stressed that you’d pray for her… please realize that this is offensive and something that is disrespectful, just like sex in a church is disrespectful to you. Isn’t it a bit hypocritical to get on internet message boards and write a diatribe about how offensive the OP’s behavior was, and then blatantly disrespect her personal beliefs?
I understand when people say, “I’ll pray for you” or quote a Bible verse in a situation where they simply don’t know any better. When you live in a country where 75% of the population is Christian it’s easy for that majority to forget that it can be uncomfortable to hear/respond to if you are of a different faith or none at all. But when it is said out of malice or spite you’re simply being childish.
lillyfaith, I can understand maybe that you personally would be offened if someone involved you in a discussion of faith out of the blue that you didn’t want to have. I don’t like it when the nice young mormon men knock on my door either. But she opened it up for discussion. Comments were asked for, and the reaction she got was probably similar to what her FH’s parishioner’s would be. Whether it goes against her personally beliefs or not it is a reflection of what the church would think and believe it or not when the church pays your salary and provides for you a place to live they get to have a say about whether or not they want to continue to do those things. A pastor’s behavior (and his wife) will be an evaluation method. If she is offended with scripture or prayers she probably needs to rethink some things. It would be like a member of PETA marrying a butcher and then getting upset because there is steak in the fridge. What do you think she’s getting into? What do you think she’s training for?
And I don’t think you understand how offensive a pastor having pre-martial sex in a church is. It’s not a snub. It’s not like someon forgetting to write you a thank you note or cutting you off in traffic. It is hurtful to God. It is hurtful to the couple. It is hurtful to the Church. It is an act of infidelity, it is the breaking of a promise, it is a moral wrong.
@Dixie – I disagree. While it’s fine for people to say that it goes against their religion or to discuss how they feel a spiritual leader should act, saying “I’ll pray for you” or quoting scripture at an atheist (to convince THEM personally, not to demonstrate how they feel her fiance should have acted or to show why it offended them, both of which are acceptable in this instance) is downright disrespectful.
I have to say when I read this I laughed out loud, literally. Thanks for the smile on this gloomy day
(This is not intended for Vicar’s Wife, but to some of the posters):
Being offended by this is not proof that Christians are judgmental. I’m Christian, but I would never DREAM of having sex at a mosque, or a Buddhist stupa, or synagogue…because even if those religions are not my own, I respect them and I respect the sanctity of their places of worship.
You admit that you shouldnt’ve done what you did where you did, and you also mentioned that you had apolgoized for what you did. So what’s everyone so upset about?
There’s not much else she can do other than apologize and remember not to do it again so I think it’s awful that she’s being attacked now. People make mistakes, they aren’t perfect, but as long as she apologized then everyone should accept her apology and move on. What they did wasn’t the best idea or respectful to the church, but the world isn’t going to end as a result.
I’m really sorry that some people have been so disrespectful and just plain mean to you on here, because you don’t deserve to be treated like that!
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