Dear Vicar’s wife,
I am glad to see that you do not feel that you are being isolated! I hope you have a happy marriage and that you grow in faith and wisdom!
To those of you who believe that the Christians replies were harsh…
You need to realize that we think of a church building as a holy place where we gather to worship the Lord God Almighty. While we believe that God is the creator of the Earth and all that there is within it, we also view the church building as a special and unique place set aside for worship and celebration. Our reverance for the building and the laws of God are our way of showing respect for Him who created us. The Bible speaks of Holy Ground as being significantly special. Our response and concern is about a leader of a Christian group who does not seem to be acting in a way that glorifies God, and is justifying his choices to someone who may not understand our concern, and through weddingbee, his decisions to do something that we find profoundly offensive is leading you to critize the Christians who are concerned not only about the Vicar, and the VWIT, but also about his congregation and the weddingbee community. The church is a hospital for sinners not a museum of saints, so we are not suggesting that we or they must be perfect. Our respect for God is such that we have responded that this activity is inappropriate.
Just to let you know, when I originally read this post, I believed it was going to be a silly post on finding a ring or seeing a gift. I have found myself returning to write and respond, because this is a post that is significantly important to the Christian community. We don’t want to see someone as lovely as Thevicar’swifeintraining hurt by her congregation, nor do we want any church community to be disrupted by this activity… To put it in perspective, our respect for our church is similar to what your respect might be for your wonderful grandmother, your favorite teacher, the wise mentor who treats you kindly but is not to be disregarded. It’s a little like saying that you went swimming in a muddy pond, and instead of drying off and taking a shower before dinner, you decided to sit on your Grandmothers antique velvet cushioned chairs at a table covered in the finest of antique linen tableclothes soaking wet and in mud.
Being muddy and soaking wet has it’s time and place, and so does sitting at a fine table drinking champagne and eating strawberries and cream on fine china and sterling silver. You wouldn’t be surprised if your Mamma yelled at you for ruining a fine linen table cloth or chairs because there is a reason for her to respond that way. There is also a reason for our response, that you may not understand, but we do as members of the Christian faith. Our replies have been a little like your Mamma’s shouts!!!
We think the act of marriage is just fine… After all God created it! But He let us know that as a people of faith, He has some strong opinions on our actions and activities. As someone who is not in the community of faith, you may be reading our responses as people who do not have the right to have an opinion, but from our perspective as a people of faith, it is our responsibility to guide others within our faith community to make good decisions. The Vicar’swifeintraining is an associate of the community, because she has written that she does not share her husband to be’s faith…and she views that her choice to work outside the church will reflect on her personal opinion of the matters of faith. That is indeed her personal concern. But I would guess that most of us did not realize that she herself was not a member of our faith community, but as you know the Vicar is a part of our Christian faith. Our concern is that he is sinning by not following the word of God and the teaching of God. As a leader in our faith, he is not meeting the expectations of a leader. Our response that we will be praying for her is out of concern. Prayers are a form of communicating with the Almighty. We are asking for God’s guidance for the Vicar and wisdom in our responses. We talk to God about a lot of things. He answers our prayers in mighty ways, and I pray that His answer to my prayer for the readers of this blog is that you will read and understand that our concern is for our community of faith, the Vicar couple, and for you the other readers. It may sound silly, but our desire is that God will be revered for who He is, that those of you who do not know the Lord will come to know Him, and that as a people of faith our actions will not hinder your search for truth!
In bee blog friendship and Christian love, Miss Bliss