(Closed) Oops! Did I make a mistake by not ordering extra bouts/corsages for VIPs?

posted 9 years ago in Flowers
  • poll: Who needs a bout/corsage?

    You idiot, all of the people you listed should have one!

    Only my parents and grandparents

    My Parents and grandparents and FI's niece and nephew

    Heck, why don't you just buy them for all the guests, too, while you're at it? Nobody NEEDS one.

    Other- I will explain below and do my best to make you feel really stupid. ;-)

  • Post # 3
    9947 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    None of these are MANDATORY as per Rules of Etiquette, they are all just niceities.

    From Peggy Post’s *Wedding Etiquette*


    It is traditional for Fathers, StepFathers, Mothers, and StepMothers to receive Boutonnieres or Corsages for the Wedding Ceremony. In addition, the Bride and Groom may want to give flowers to GrandMothers, GrandFathers, GodMothers, GodFathers, or any other significant people in their lives.

    If you want to surprise people with flowers and don’t know what they will be wearing, white or ivory are safe choices. Wrist or purse corsages are also a smart idea for the women on your list, since they may be wearing something that they don’t want pinned or that a shoulder corsage would not complement.

    Of the list your Parents would be the ones who’d I add for sure. Grandparents would be a nice sentiment.

    Beyond that, it is up to you.  Sister as a quasi-bridesmaid would be a nice gesture, as would be your Aunt and the Accompaniest (Aunt alone if she is a Soloist).  If anyone is doing a Reading at the Ceremony it would be nice to include them in the list as well.

    No need to get anything for the Officiant.

    Corsages vs Boutonnieres… almost no difference, although traditionally a Corsage is bigger and more elaborate and also tends to be the “girlie” choice if it has elaborate / exotic flowers (ie Orchids etc)

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 4
    1139 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Honestly I found it best to ask each parent and grandparent if they would like to wear one. For us the moms didn’t want to deal with one and one of the grandmothers didn’t want to ruin her dress with the pin or wear one on her wrist. Only one person wanted one. Ask to save yourself money.

    Post # 5
    14090 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We ordered corsages or bouts for officiant (my godfather), readers, parents, and grandparents as well as all the traditional wedding party stuff. 

    Post # 6
    768 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Our parents, grandparents and godparents all got flowers. I was none to thrilled about the godparents gettign them (I didn’t think it was necessary), but Mother-In-Law insisted, so…they all got them. They did seem to like them tho, so I guess it was worth it.


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