Post # 1
My fiance and I just found out we are pregnant! Im still very early in the pregnancy but our wedding isnt until May of 13. We just recently reset our wedding date from fall 2012 to spring 2013 because of finances. Our families were pretty disappointed about that. We also have been engaged FOREVER.
We want to get married right away before I start to show any signs of being pregnant. Problem is our whole family thinks we are getting married in spring and we live out of state from our families.
One thing I have going for me is that our families are like “GET MARRIED ALREADY SHEESH!” So we could play off of that and just say we are just gonna get married now.
Can you ladies give any advice on how to send out invitations for a rush wedding? We want to plan to get married in the next 1-2 months at the latest. How do you word an invite like that? I know that most of our family willl not be able to attend because we are out of state and the invite will be short notice. Not to mention they will all be very disappointed. Im just not sure how to word this so no one is suspicious. 🙁
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Im so stressed and these new hormones are not helping.
Post # 3
Truthfully i believe the happyness they will experience from knowing about the bundle of joy coming your way will nake up for all the surprise! I would actually mention the baby coming and play a little with words and immages to create a fun and emotional invite!!
Post # 4
if your wedding was already planned you could move it back to the origional date if it works for your time line. Also it isn’t difficult to pull a wedding together in a few months if you keep your head on your shoulders. If you are worried about funding (and places being booked this close to the time) Try non-typical wedding venues like a park, campground, church social hall, museum? Parks often have shelters you can rent for a few hundred dollars and if there are allready trees and flowers in the park you really don’t need much decor. Relitives yards are another option but I am sure you have heard all of these before.
All you really need for a wedding are You, a groom, paperwork, officiant, friends. Thats it, I am sure you can get all of that together no problem. Anything else above and beyond that is just icing on the cake.
Congrats! and you can totally do this!
Post # 5
If you have the wedding in 2 months and the baby 7 months from then everyone will know anyway. Just be open about it.
Post # 6
Well, they will figure it out soon enough so I don’t know that trying to lull suspicions is really worth the time. No need to tell them that’s why you’re moving it up, but no need to hide it either. Move it back to the original date or elope and hold a celebration later with more time for guests to make it would be my suggestions.
Post # 7
I had a cousin who did a rush wedding because her hubby-to-be was being deployed so it was within 3 months of their engagement. She didn’t do formal invitations, just sent out emails to the family (who were also mostly out of state) and friends. You could just send out your invites and say something like “Jane and Bob are finally tying the knot!” I don’t think you need to explain anything about the date change.
Also, I probably wouldn’t try to hide the baby. When baby finally comes people will do the math and realize/suspect so why not just embrace it? Usually people will base their reactions off of how you feel about it so if you’re pleased they will try to be also!
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Do a surprise wedding? Does your family get together for holidays like Veterday’s Day? Or Thanksgiving or Christmas? Since everyone will already be there show up in your tux and gown with an officiant.
Post # 9
Your family will figure it out when a baby appears 7 months after your wedding. It really isn’t a big deal though. Your family is gaining a son-in law and a new baby! Happiness all around! 🙂
Post # 10
I say have a lovely small intimate wedding with your family…and then use your wedding date (i assume deposits have been paid) for an awesome “recpetion” and “baby shower” and an excuse to party!
Post # 11
Thanks for the replies everyone! Ya I have a hard time lying and it is making me really emotional trying not to tell my mom 🙁 But my Fiance really wants to keep it personal and just get married ASAP.
We do already have my dream reception planned out and paid for in our home state on our wedding date in Spring. I was wondering if it would be dumb to still go back 8 months from now after we are already married and have all our family still come together to celebrate.
I guess it would be a baby and wedding celeberation which could be cool..