Post # 1
My dear SO. When talking about rings he asked me which things were the most important to me. Solitaire, yellow gold, and a thin band were my requirements.
We were walking through our jewellery district and passed a shop with a stunning ring in the window. Half a carat and platinum. It was gorgeous. We’d already bought the moissanite, and even this ring with half a carat was still out of our budget. We went in and asked if it were possible to get this ring in yellow gold. He said he’d probably have to make it himself as this designer only made platinum, and quoted us. We noticed tiny surprise diamonds and said not to worry about those- they didn’t matter. They took notes of everything we required, but we left without making a final decision.
Anyway, fast forward to tonight. SO makes a joke about my ring and says he didn’t realise how expensive platinum was and I stopped what I was doing. I said we were looking at yellow gold… not platinum. I thought the reason he was making it was because they didn’t make it in gold… But no. Wires were crossed, and they didn’t make it without the surprise diamonds.
He didn’t double check the metal. He’s been freaking out all night because of it. He only put the order in a week ago so hopefully it hasn’t been made yet and the metal can be switched… I don’t know.
I’m gutted he didn’t check. But I feel heartbroken for my SO. He looked devastated. A ring in a metal I didn’t want, costing WAY MORE than he was expecting.
What do you think bees? Think they may not have made it yet? One week into a 4 week process?
OR tell me why platinum is AMAZEBALLS and help me get excited about it!
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
More than likely, they can still change the order. Keep us posted though!
I’ll be curious to see what others post on the platinum vs. gold part– personally I’ve never been able to justify the price jump.
Post # 4
Contact them immediately. They may have put the piece in casting. Either way, hopefully they change it for you 🙂 Keep us updated! Poor guy 🙁
Post # 5
@lookingglass: Hopefully it can get switched.
To answer your question as to why I someone would choose Platinum, here are my reasons:
– Hypoallergenic. A lot of people have nickel allergies, and nickel’s commonly used in making white gold.
– When platinum scratches, it doesn’t lose metal. This was a good selling point for me, because I chose a delicate setting.
-Palladium’s a cheaper option, but I’ve heard it can be brittle, so it’s not as workable for most jewelers as platinum is.
-It doesn’t need to be replated
Post # 6
I have platinum for both my ering and my wedding band and I don’t regret my decision at all for all of the reasons that PP stated. Darling Husband gifted me another ring as a wedding gift and I was a little bummed it was only available in WG, though poor Darling Husband tried getting it in platinum.
I had a delicate WG ring and it was a floral design. One of the “petals” actually bent out of place and I had to send it back in to be fixed. This was purchased at one of the expensive, high-end stores so it’s not a poor workmanship issue IMO. My ering in platinum is also super delicate but I’ve banged it into many things (and wore this for a longer extended period of time) and I haven’t had any problems.
Post # 7
I hope they can make the switch.
So, did the jeweler make it with the surprise diamonds or without? Why would he tell you the designer only worked with platinum and that he would have to make it himself if you wanted 14 K yellow gold? I think he should shoulder some of the blame. If you wanted it in plat. you would have bought it as is. I doubt the surprise diamonds added that much to overall price.
I really do prefer platinum, but if you have your heart set on yellow gold than I fear you will be dissapointed. It is a sturdy metal, but there is no warmth to it.
Post # 8
@chellesy2: 2 months passed between the initial enquiry and when my SO went in again about it so the jeweller didn’t remember what we’d discussed. I can’t actually believe he took that long. When he got the first quote, he knew he had to wait another month to save a bit more so he did- but last night I found out that he still hasn’t paid anything because they use the stone as a deposit and it’s paid on completion.. which also broke my heart.. I’ve been waiting for this ring for so long, and he could have handed the stone over when we first enquired, paid a month later on completion when he DID have the money, and none of this would have happened.
Whats even more upsetting is that I mentioned asking about putting down a deposit and he still didn’t. So now all this has resulted. When he realised that too he looked even more sad and told me that he’ll do whatever it takes to get me yellow gold.
I’m a massive control freak and like to have answers for everything, so it was really difficult letting go of this part of the process because he wanted me to. I absolutely would have questioned his 2nd quote and even asked what the price difference would be with/without surprise diamonds- but he didn’t 🙁
Ach. We’ve agreed that from now on, I resume my role of planning EVERYTHING lol.
Post # 9
@lookingglass: I love my platinum ring so much and get lots of comments about it. I hope they can change it though if you have got your heart set on yellow gld.
Post # 10
He’s just called the jewellers. The goldsmith isn’t in until Friday and the owner is looking into it. Hopefully if the goldsmith isn’t in he hasn’t started making it yet. Fingers crossed!
Post # 11
@lookingglass: hopefully you can get a change, because I was finding most rings in Platinum were around $1000 more than white or yellow gold.
That said, we bought my eRing in platinum. Mostly because I have a nickel allergy. White gold often contains nickel, and even yellow gold will contain some nickel.
For my ring, we priced doing a white gold alloy made with palladium instead of nickel, but palladium is more expensive than nickel and so that was only about $500 less than the cost of doing it in Platinum, so we decided to go with the Platinum since it wasn’t much more. Also that means we won’t have to do rhodium redips and stuff.
Post # 12
@Jennlee: ahhh i DO have a nickel allergy! I had my tongue pierced a few years ago and before i knew, i changed the top ball for one with a bit of sparkle, but the metal was really cheap. my tongue swelled up HUGE amounts – NOT fun!
I’m fine with yellow gold, though. I wear a lot of 9ct and i’ve never had any bad reactions. but any ‘cheap’ jewellery will make my skin red and itchy!
I’m slowly getting used to the platinum idea just in case it can’t be changed. i do like that it’s a lot darker than white gold – which i really do not like. The allergy thing is a plus, as well as how durable it is.
And if we DO end up going platinum, I think the price would be a steal! When he mentioned his original quote, the jeweller got confused and although he had to up the price, he only did it by a couple of hundred pounds because he thought he’d made a huge error in his first quote.
So if we get a setting for £850 that should have been £1,500 then I won’t mind that so much, haha.
Post # 13
@abirdword: +1 This was what I was supposed to write, but you did it first 😀
Post # 14
He just got a call from the jewellers – they can change to yellow gold!!! They’re also re-issuing a quote so hopefully this will be cheaper, too!
Post # 15
*phew* , glad it’s going to work out!
Post # 16
Yay!!! I was so worried for you! Being a yellow gold girl myself, I couldn’t imagine having to be happy about a platinum ring (its lovely on other people, white metals make my skin look green and blue like a corpse.) But I also felt SO BAD for your SO reading this, I’m sure he felt really terrible!