Post # 1
I’m still pretty new to the hive and I have never posted before (a bit nervous about this actually!)
Anyhow, today I’m feeling pretty frustrated with myself for bringing up the “proposal” discussion again with my SO last night. It’s never a good thing. I do so well for a week or two and then something comes up, be it a TV commercial, a comment or something else I’ve read too much in to and off I go, needing reassurance that it will actually happen.
When these feelings come up I know it’s not a good idea to talk about them with my SO. But I have felt too embarrassed to discuss with friends because I know they are ultimately irrational! Irrational or not, I can’t seem to get them out of my head. Normally I am a level headed, independent woman but with this particular issue I have had no common sense.
My SO has told me he will be proposing by April- which is amazing! So why can’t I just step back and trust this process? I think it might be because we got to this point once before and he needed more time. I think that kind of spooked me a bit. Any tips to surviving the waiting without talking about it?
Post # 3
Marriage is something that should be discussed, and it should be a positive discussion, as it concerns both of your futures. So what was the conversation leading up to his April deadline like? Was it a brush off “I’ll propose by April, back off” talk, or did you both sit down and actually talk through your mututal plans, then agree to April as a time frame?
Post # 4
@KatyElle: In June we discussed engagement because we were going to Europe for a month and he was worried I thought he would propose there (I wasn’t expecting that). Instead he told me he would propose sometime before December. However, in October he told me he needed more time. It hurt. I listened to him and his reasons for needing more time and they were valid reasons. I told him I was ok with that but that I wasn’t ok with waiting indefinitely at my age (I am 31). He listened to me and said he would be ready to propose by April, because we would have been living together for over a year at that point and he would just know. I love this man and want to spend forever with him. He is a trustworthy person and tries hard to make me happy every day. I would like to give him the benefit of the doubt here.