(Closed) OOT +1?

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: If you were single, would you want to bring a guest/date to a wedding hundreds of miles away?

    Definitely - vacation with a friend or new relationship? awesome!

    Unlikely, but the +1 would be nice in case I get into a relationship

    No way, pay an extra $300 to fly someone else out? No thanks!


  • Post # 3
    5669 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think most people wouldn’t bring a guest but the option would be nice. I guess you could give the option but know that at least 80% of them won’t bring anyone.

    Post # 4
    355 posts
    Helper bee

    i’m giving +1 to all my guests (secretly hoping they’ll decline the guest part), but i think it should be up to them whether to bring someone or not…as long as they have a good time i’ll be happy:)

    Post # 5
    1675 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I doubt that many of your single Out of Town guests would end up bringing a date… although it’s nice to be able to offer up the option of a plus 1, if your budget can accommodate it.  We’re giving all of our single guests th option of a +1, but I will be very surprised if more than a couple of them take us up on the offer… unless they get themselves into a serious relationship in the remaining 6 months before our wedding that is. 

    Post # 6
    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think it’s totally OK not to give them +1s if they are single and will know other people at the wedding. If I was tapped for space on the guestlist that would be the first place I’d cut.

    Post # 7
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    Do you really want to be inviting and paying for random strangers at your wedding whom you will never see again? Most adults do know how to enjoy themselves without needing to bring along a friend whom the couple doesn’t know.

    Post # 9
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    It’s not rude to invite people without dates. The only time it is rude is if someone is in relationship (serious boyfriend/girlfriend), engaged or married. Also, not everyone has the space or budget to allow for extra random guests.


    But if I was single, regardless of age, it wouldn’t even occur to me to ask the bride or groom if I could bring anyone along. A large part of it has to do with the fact that I was raised that it’s rude to do so and many other people have been as well. Obviously that isn’t the case for everyone.

    Post # 10
    6571 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    if they know eachother and you need to make cuts, i think it’s fine not to give them plus 1s.

    Post # 11
    613 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    i voted before reading your post.  if i was single and knew people there, id come out alone and split the hotel room.

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