- 3 months ago
- Wedding: October 2017
2. Nowhere did I say that anyone was jealous. The *only* thing I said was that comparing a diamond that someone finds pretty to wads of spit is rude. Especially since some bees have already shared they have similar stones.
3. Are you ready to let this go?
At the moment I would recommend that anyone who is interested in owning an included stone work closely with a smallscale jeweler who has a special interest in them and knows their shit as far as metalworking goes, although that’s my advice for all jewelry purchases, frankly, having spent some time working for craftspeople of that description. This is what we did, and frankly, I’m happy to pay for that kind of individualized process with a skilled craftsperson, especially for a design I happen to love. For the record, the bulk of the price of my ring was actually the metalwork (as straightforward as it might seem), not the stone.
So bottom line, everyone should get what they love, regardless of trendiness of “value”, just make sure the ring itself is well fabricated and sourced from a reputable jeweler.
Okay, this has been interesting, but I’m so out of this conversation now.
wow after reading most of the comments i feel i should chip in abit about my ring journey
so when looking for an e-ring i knew i didn’t want a diamond, at least not in the classic sense. My mother has a diamond ring and i personally (for my own preferences) felt it was a little flashy, didn’t like the look of a ball of fire, disco ball on my hand.
so i started looking at different gemstones, that was when i chanced upon salt and pepper diamonds – didn’t like the look of the very peppery diamonds that i kept seeing
ultimately i changed upon white sapphire and thought they were absolutely beautiful, clear stones, with white flashes of sparkle, clear facets
so me and the fiancé went down to a local jewler to get a white sapphire cut (they didn’t have the cut i want in person)
fast forward to waiting for my stone – i chanced upon a bunch of saltier salt and pepper diamonds – the more white kind and felllll in love, i loved the beautiful glittery white/off white gems so much, but it was too late we already made a down payment on the sapphire
when the white sapphire came, it was so absolutely beautiful in the shop, we chose a solitaire setting and went home
when i was proposed to – i loved the ring in the beginning, but then started questioning my choice when it started getting cloudy/dirty, and also when i saw diamond rings that were cheaper than my custom ring i started questioning whether or not i wanted a classic diamond ring
more browsing on the internet and i fell in love with the overly sparkly diamonds i thought i wouldn’t like??
it was very confusing, i learned afterwards that i just felt a bit confused and felt like i didn’t get the “best deal’
HOWEVER when i learned how to clean my sapphire, and it was throwing crazy sparkle and flash, not the kind a diamond does, but in its own beautiful glowy way i fell in love with it all over again
ALL THIS TO SAY
– only get this stone if you absolutely want it (not because it might be more affordable) you can always find an affordable version of what you like
– research about it!! how it will look, how to clean it, etc.
– see how it looks in different lightings
in retrospect i wouldn’t change anything about my ring, but my ring journey taught me a lot at the same time, hope it helps you!
I don’t think the ‘traditional’ diamond industry or ‘traditional’ diamond fans get to decide what other people find attractive, worthwhile and of value. All marketing ploys are set up in the exact same way: make this look pretty and special so people will want it. I’m also sure finding an included diamond that’s ideal for the salt and pepper aesthetic (or the like) isn’t particularly easy – for example even dispersion of inclusions, even colour. They are also more eco friendly.
Wear whatever stones you love with pride and joy.
I love that they are different than anything I’ve ever seen, and I love that you’ve found something that makes you swoon! I think if it’s the stone you want to go with you should!
Also (and then I’m really done), I wanted to add that “opalescent” is not necessarily a marketing term, it’s a descriptor, like “brown” or “yellow” “gray” or “clear” or “cloudy”. It is an adjective meaning “Showing various colors, as an opal does.” It does kind of sound like it means “a diamond that’s trying to be an opal”, which could perhaps be confusing, but it really is just an adjective. “Silvermist”, “Salt and Pepper”, “Rustic” and “Crushed Ice”, on the other hand, are absolutely marketing terms, just like “Chocolate” in the place of “brown or “Canary” in the place of “yellow”. I didn’t get the impression that the OP was asking, “What do you think about the concept of a marketing strategy that might make use of the particular look of these stones?”, but rather, “What do you think of stones that look like this?”. I think we can agree that ALL marketing strategies are meant to fabricate “need”, and therefore can’t be trusted to accurately convey value.
Capitalism is invariably gross at a certain point, usually when a company or product reaches the height of popularity. I tend to think it’s good to question why we buy things, and to care about where they come from and what went into making them, but at this point, almost no one can get through life (or the month) without getting some of that “gross” on them. There is no moral high ground to be had here. I think the best we can do for now is to make purchases that we feel good about, that “inspire joy” (ick) or speak to us in some way, because that really is the only way to measure the value of an object.
P.S. I’d say the term “Frozen Spit” is actually on the same level as “Salt and Pepper” in terms of its goal, oddly enough—attempting to convey/invoke “feelings” about a product rather than a neutral description (at least, where I come from, spit isn’t considered neutral, otherwise folks wouldn’t hurl it at people they disliked). What’s the opposite of a marketing term?