Post # 1
Ok wedding bee beauties! I hear a lot people and guest complaining that have been to weddings that they were upset there was not a open bar. Well my fiance is a very light drinker and i dont drink. Do you think its wrong for not providing a open bar for our guest?
Post # 3
The wording on the poll is strange…so: IMO, in the US, it’s pretty standard to have an open bar for your guests, even if you don’t drink. The definition of “open” varies from wedding to wedding, depending on what the couple can afford (some just do beer/wine or a signature cocktail, etc). I attended a dry wedding and man, was it dry…However, in the end, it’s your wedding and you can do whatever the hell you want.
Post # 4
Neither my husband or I drink but we had an open bar for our guests. I wanted them to enjoy the night and I know that means drinking. If you don’t want to have an open bar because of the cost that is one thing but if you are not doing it because you don’t drink, that isn’t really a good reason.
Post # 5
It’s really up to you.. you can do whatever you want.
I personally do not drink, but am still providing an open bar, as my guests DO like to toss a few back.
Post # 6
I am personally not a fan of cash bars, but my Fiance and I are beer lovers and knew we wanted an open bar from day 1. To me, the guests are a big factor in whether to have one. If the guest list includes a lot of heavier drinkers, they may expect an open bar and be upset if an open bar isn’t available. But if your guests are light drinkers like you and your Fiance, a cash bar would be less of an issue. My Fiance went to a dry reception where they did signature non-alcoholic drinks that were really good, and he said that guests had more of those than the alcoholic drinks. You could try something fun like that as a cheaper and non-alcoholic option.
Post # 7
I think if its the norm where you live and the cost for an open bar is exhorbitant I can understand it. However, I think when you are hosting an event you should not make decisions based solely on your personal preferences. If you and your Fiance don’t like to drink but your 150 guests do then I think you should take their preferences into account.
Post # 8
I’m in the same boat as you. We don’t really drink, so I didn’t want to pay for an open bar when it just wasn’t a priority for us. To avoid it, we decided to have a lunch reception. That way, we can have a dry wedding without it being “weird”. We’re also planning on going out to a bar later that night with anyone who wants to come. That way, if people really want to drink, they can, but it won’t be on us.
Post # 9
A large amount of our guest list doesn’t drink, so we are having a cash bar. I was concerned with paying $5000 JUST for alcohol when less than half of the guests will drink, also with being responsible for drunks driving home after the wedding. I don’t want my wedding to turn into a frat party, which I know it will if there’s an open bar.
Post # 10
I don’t think you need to have a full on open bar enough for everyone to get smashed, especially if you aren’t drinkers yourselves. But I do think it’s pretty normal for people to expect to have a glass of wine or something with dinner and to make them pay for that is kind of rude. A lot of weddings I’ve been to have a bottle or two of wine on the table for dinner and cash bar after. I think that’s enough.
Post # 11
We paid for beer for most of the night and the rest was cash bar. I don’t really see anything wrong with having a cash bar.
Post # 12
Yes, it is rude to host an event and then ask your guests to pay for their drinks.
Post # 13
Are you in the US? I think it would be rude to host and not have open bar or, at the least, wine and beer bar. I dont drink much and neither does my Fiance but that doesnt mean we would make our guests pay for drinks. To me that is like saying you dont like music so you will have a party without it.
Post # 14
I personally wouldn’t care if it was an open bar paid for by the bride and groom or an open bar where I could buy my own alcohol, as long as I can have a drink with dinner or more if I want I’m fine with that. Alcohol is expensive (especially at wedding venues) so I am not offended when I have to buy my own. It is always nice when the couple pays for at least the first hour or beer/wine all night then if you don’t want their choices you pay for your own.
Post # 15
Darling Husband is a super light drinker and I am a light social drinker and we provided an open bar (all night) for our guests. We also provide tons of alcohol whenever we throw parties/bbq even though we probably consume 0.5% of it. So in other words, I think consumption by you and Fiance isn’t a good reason whether to have an open bar or not.
It’s a mixed bag here on the Bee. A lot of people say geographically, they are used to cash bar (or partial cash bars) and no one minds and everyone knows to bring cash. I think it really depends on geography and your social circle. No one in my social circle would ever consider a cash bar and every wedding I’ve attended has either been dry (very rare/religious) or open bar.
Post # 16
IMO if you are going to have a cash bar you need to make sure you kind of let people know in advance. We went to a wedding last year that had an open bar until they reached a limit of $xxx and then it was a cash bar well no one knew that and the minimum was chewed up before they were done with pictures and no one really had cash on hand(personally i use my card for everything) it was kind of a bummer but we still had a good time.