Post # 17
The problem for me would be that I rarely bring a lot of money with me when I go to weddings – I guess my man has his wallet, but I usually just bring smaller bills for tipping. It’s such a tricky topic though – you don’t want people filling up with 2 or 3 drinks at once, but you want to make sure that they know they need to bring some cash.
The beer and wine would be totally fine – that’s what we’re offering for our Welcome Cocktails reception.
Just an FYI – our venue claims that the most drinks are consumed in the first hour. People will have at least 2 in the first hour on average. After that, they say that it evens out to about a drink an hour. Now, that is an an average person and doesn’t account for shots, etc.
Post # 18
I think that you should do a “cash” bar or an “open bar”. I know you want to save $ here, but it’s best to go either extreme. You don’t want to offend your guests. I think what you should do is “per consumption bar.” In other words, pay for the drinks that they actually consume as opposed to paying an open bar price. If this is not feasible, then you should just do a champagne toast, unlimited soda, beer and wine. If they want mixed drinks, do indicate that by having your server for each table let your guests know what is included with their meal. People understand that a wedding costs a great deal and doing something limited is the norm these days. Another option would be to have a “signature” drink during cocktails or with your main course. After champagne, everyone gets a “signature” drink, say with dinner or during the cocktail hour. Since you are having a June wedding, do a lovely fresh summer drink – everyone gets something special and then drink beer and wine the rest of the evening.. Check out:
Post # 19
This has probably worked well for some people, but I would personally be a little confused if I suddenly had to pay for what I was getting for free all night. I probably also wouldn’t carry any money on me unless I knew there was going to be a cash bar and if I knew there was going to be a cash bar, I would drink as much as I could while it was free. Catch 22 for you!
Some people have suggested beer/wine. Others have suggested drink tickets. I personally hate both beer and wine so I would be in the drink ticket camp and give everyone 2-3 tickets. If someone doesn’t want theirs, they can give it away, but no one is going to give Alcoholic Uncle Bob all the tickets.
You could even go beer/wine unlimited and give everyone 1 ticket to trade for a fancier drink?