Open Bar Issues – FMIL Doesn't Want It

• FossilLady
• 4 weeks ago

She sounds like she went into the experience looking for the negative, so please try not to let it bother you! Obviously nobody wants a big drunken scene at their wedding but in my experience, bartenders don’t want that either and have liability to think about so if the bar is hosted and not a mix-your-own casual setup, the bartenders can be on the watch for an out-of-control Father-In-Law and stop serving him. I would make your Fiance in charge of wedding communications to his family and just demur if you’re asked directly about the open bar – don’t lie, but don’t offer up details or an explanation. 

• neverbeenstungbee
• 4 weeks ago

I’d be so irritated if I were you. I completely agree with everything you’ve said, OP. 

Don’t invite her to anything else and continue your plans for the open bar. It’s not your problem her husband has a drinking problem and there’s a time and place to discuss that and she chose to bring it up at a party and make it about her and her husband’s issue. She sounds selfish and controlling.

She needs to back off and if she doesn’t I’d get your fiancé involved. This is your day, not hers.