Post # 1
We have a larger decline rate than we expected so we are looking to upgrade our package. Currently we have a limited bar (beer, wine, and soda) and cold platter hors d’ oeuvres displays.
We are probably going to go with upgrading to a full open bar but I’m curious to see what the general opinion is. So, would you rather go to a wedding with a full open bar and cold platter hors d’oeuvres or hot passed hors d’oeuvres and a limited bar?
Post # 4
I’d definitely go for the open bar, but it really depends on your guests. None of the weddings I’ve been to have hors d’ oeurvres but all have full open bar. If you have a full course dinner and dessert I don’t think more/better hors d’ oeures are necessary.
Post # 5
Exactly what I have seen and would choose.
@MrsBeck: In fact I did choose that. We downgraded/removed something from the Menu because my mother was insistant on it, and then she wasn’t able to try it so she said forget it. And we had extra $ so we upgraded the bar instead of upgrading Hors d’oeuvres. Honestly I may or may not get to eat those anyways but I WILL get to enjoy the bar. So…. yeah 😉
Post # 7
As a guest, I would much rather have a full open bar!
Post # 8
you know your guests better than we do, what would they prefer?
for me, i’d do the full open bar.
Post # 9
Bar! If I have a good drink I really wont care too much about the food being passed around.
Post # 10
Full open bar because cocktail hour is usually only about an hour (ours was only 30 minutes) and then dinner starts. most of the time i end of missing the food during cocktail hour because i’m too busy chatting.
Post # 12
We also had more people decline than expected, so we upgraded to an open bar. Our guests were MUCH more appreciative of the bar than they would have been of the extra hors d’oeuvres.
Post # 13
We did both, but if I had to choose I’d do a more substantial cocktail hour menu every time. Nothing wrong with free access to wine and or a champagne toast. People tend to be a lot more excited by added cocktail hour menu choices around here. Then again, my crowd is all about the food, not the alcohol.
Post # 14
Thanks bees! I think our guests would prefer an open bar (or at least the people I’ve asked so far would). We have decided to go with the open bar as we will still have plenty of hors ‘doevres (just not as fancy) as well as dinner, cake, and late night snacks. Thanks for all the feedback!
Post # 15
I’ve never been to a wedding that just had cold hors d’oeurves so I’d miss hot ones or stations. But you definitely can’t go wrong with an open bar. Think most guest would appreciate that more.